Dear Courtney,
My view is the same as TriangleSun’s view; when you’re supposed to meet someone, that someone will turn up in your life. Paradoxically, when you stop looking and ‘give up’ the ‘right’ person could turn up. Notice I said ‘could’, not ‘will’. It seems to me that your principle problem is not liking your own company, and you are somewhat desperate to have someone else’s company in order that you do not have to be alone. Many of your dates may have picked up on this. It might come over as a bit ‘clingy’ and so they run a mile.
So, first things first, you are given this space, on your own, at the present time, in order that you learn to enjoy being alone. Embrace this being alone, fully. Enjoy being alone. It sounds odd to you perhaps, almost scary, but being alone is not lonely, alone and lonely are two very different things. I love being alone, even though I am married. When I was a child, I actively sought out long periods of time to ‘be alone’, otherwise I didn’t feel right. It is something you must learn to love …..your own company. After loving your own company, you might also find an outside love, in another person too. Embrace this alone-ness now, feel all associated with it, without flinching, and learn to enjoy it. You’ve made the correct first step – quit the dating sites. Good luck