Dear ameliau:

You were wrong to cheat on your boyfriend even though he hit you once. You wrote as a reason: “I always wanna look for a better guy.” Nothing to do with him hitting you.

You wrote that while with him you were exchanging texts with other guys but you didn’t cross the line at that point. Putting the texting together with always wanting a better guy, makes me believe that you were looking for a BETTER guy in his presence.

Now, hitting anyone except for in self defense is wrong. Hitting a girl is politically incorrect on top. All you, as a … girl has to say is: that boy hit me! And almost everyone will be on your side as the victim and the guy as the BAD, unforgiven.

Back to the reason for cheating on him, for texting the men in his presence, while in relationship with him and later on proceeding to have a sexual relationship with another, or others: when you wrote you are always looking for a better guy, what do you mean? Why was THIS man not good enough and why were other men not good enough?

If you explore the motivation, you have an opportunity to heal yourself and have a good relationship in the future. Until you explore, if you do (hope your guilt motivates you to explore!), I think you should not contact him. After all, as long as he is NOT GOOD ENOUGH for you, you owe it to yourself and to HIM, to not contact him, to not try to get back together.

Hoping to read another post from you in efforts of… exploration!

anita