Dear ameliau,

I broke up with my girlfriend about half a year ago and your story is surprisingly similar to mine (except that I didn’t hit her). I really know how it’s like to see the relationship with a loved one go from “awesome” to “total shitstorm” while you can’t actually do something to ‘fix’ it (the feeling of being powerless and hopeless). After 6 months more or less, I got a lot of time to think about my past relationship: the things I did wrong, the things she did wrong, the reasons why it didn’t work out, everything. I ended up realizing that everything happens for a reason. Breaking up isn’t necessarily bad if you look at it with the right eyes. I try everyday to not make the same mistakes I once did and I try to learn from everything tha she had to teach me while in a relationship with her. Your relationship wasn’t worthless or in vain. There is always the chance to be together again with your loved one and work it out this time but, as TinyBuddha once posted, ‘Relationships last not because they were destined to last. Relationships last long because two people made a choice to keep it, fight for it and work for it’. So always look at the bright side of things, you may not be with him now but you have the tools to make yourself a better person and consequently have a better relationship in the future (with him or anybody else, there’s always someone for another one). Things may look dark, hard and sad now but, things will pass and it will get better. After that things will get bad again and that’s the beauty of life: it gives you the opportunity to live for improving yourself by being stronger, smarter and happier everyday. Things will get better, and remember: everything happens for a reason, when a door closes, dozens of other doors open, you just have to stop staring at the closed door and look around. Be happy, I wish all the best for you.

PS: sorry for any mispelling or english mistakes, good vibes from Brazil 🙂
Luv u