Hi Andrew M,

YES! I don’t know if I can help you as I have the same sort of problem. But YES that is me, only without the emotional torment about it.

Here’s what I concluded, at least for myself.

We get depressed over our SHOULDS. I SHOULD have a job I feel PASSIONATE about. I SHOULD have a squad of FRIENDS. I SHOULD have a MISSION in LIFE!! Then I buy a new calendar and put in my GOALS for the year, month, week and/or day. Then I get down on myself because I didn’t write the Blog Posts for Fall for my Fans/”Fans”. Or I didn’t host a theme party and actually meet my new best friends. Or get my name in the paper. Etc.

What if ~ what if…. It’s OK to get up, go to work, do what you have to do to live in this world, and sit and read books in the coffee shop. What if that’s what life’s really about ~ at least right now? I say cast all your SHOULDS out of your mind ~ just for now ~ and go and ENJOY reading in the coffee shop.

It gives you pleasure, you are living within your nature, you are doing something you LOVE. If you want to add on to that, you can volunteer and go to events at the local library. See if you like it! That dovetails into your current purpose (getting lost in reading). You help or support people, events and the building… then you read your books!

And P.S. Reading anything about Mindfulness, Compassion, Mysticism, Meditation, etc. is bound to be un-grounding. You have to really be grounded to read stuff like that and get anything out of them IMHO.

Best,

Inky

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