Dear Max:

excellent idea, to treat this thread as your journal. You have conflicting thoughts today, understandably, thinking of doing something so to get her back on one hand and on the other, thinking it is not a good idea. So you came up with a compromise on those two: do nothing for the next three months. Thinking faculties are operating!

My input: if you do something to get her back, you will be at best getting back the same woman who will continue to doubt herself being in relationship with you, and so you will bring back, if you succeed, the next ride in the roller coaster of “she loves me” “she loves me not”- wouldn’t it. Highs and Lows.

Like you wrote, why not her coming to you- then, if she did, you can check with her, what changed? Is she back to you confident about being with you?

You may want a ride, but not an overly bumpy ride.

Post here again, anytime.

anita