Dear Max,

Please forgive me for replying to this thread. I am new to using this site and am not familiar with posting “etiquette”.

Max, I felt the need to reply to your post because your situation sounds eerily familiar to what I am going through – however, in my case, I am the one who felt the need to ask for more time.

My relationship ended very recently, with him being the one to walk away due to my indecisiveness/and not wanting to hurt anyone. He had told me that he would like to keep in touch, and that if I were to ever need anything or need someone to talk to, to please reach out to him.

Like you, he is a wonderful man, with a tremendously big heart – he is more than I could ever want and need. I do love him, but because of my current circumstances, I could not love him the way that I wanted to.

Even though I understand that our relationship had to end, I am still devastated; and I am remorseful for the way that I hurt him and his heart. Although it is wrong of me to have any hope for reconciliation in the future, as each day passes, it does provide me with some comfort to think that maybe he and I can be together one day. The right way.

I just want you to know that you aren’t alone in the way that you think and feel – like you, I am grieving the death of a relationship, and am slowing taking things in day by day.

I know you are hurting, but just know that one day you will wake up and you won’t feel like this anymore. I am hopeful that you will be able to find happiness and that you will be in a better place.

Take care,
Jenny