Dear Anonymous:

I remember now that I suggested your third option before to you. I like it. I think that you are quite clear yourself that the option of going back home, living with your mother and her boyfriend is not a good idea, not if you want to feel good (and you do want that..)

I would take a … leap of faith and make a decision regarding the living at home option, think about it more if you need to and then make a definite decision, be it yay or nay, yes or no. No longer Maybe! It takes courage.

If you make a No decision of the first option and feel strongly about it (in spite of ongoing fear that will still be there), then, if I was you, I would tell my boyfriend about my final decision about option one and tell him what it is that I do want: to live with him! Then see what he says. Make a move toward what YOU want.

You are quite clear about what you do want: to make a life living with him, so… make it happen! Imagine you can make things happen the way you want them…? It is the fear, if you practice courage and get his support in handling the fear, then you can make things happen the way you need them to be. Not perfectly, but in that direction, living with him.

Post again…!
anita