Dear H1978:

I can see the reasoning in exiting the marriage. It is not fair to you and it is not fair for your children to have a mother who is understandably exhausted, depleted and upset continuously by circumstances that are exhausting, depleting and so very upsetting.

Of course, it is your choice when and if to do what is needed to end this unacceptable situation. There are considerations, I am sure, that I know nothing about. What I do know for sure, and you know, that it is wrong for him to treat you the way he does and that his abusive behavior promotes nothing but sickness in you, in the home… and of course, it doesn’t help him (beyond the temporary relief he is getting out of it!)

Please do post anytime, and we can continue to talk, if you’d like. Please do take care of yourself the best you can!

anita