Dear H1978:

What a development! A good development as I see it.

You wrote: “I know I am running away”- as if it was a bad thing, a bad move but this is what you do when you are under threat: you either run away or you fight or you do both… This is what animals do when attacked. It is called “Fight or Flight” – we are designed to do that. There is nothing weak or unreasonable about running away.

It is much more reasonable to run away than to fight…

We are not designed to take abuse and stay. This is not going to be easy but it is the right thing for you to do, to NOT stay in that situation. Either he leaves or you do.. or somehow it has to be that you are safe from his abuse, from his attacks.

Be on YOUR side, take care of yourself. Whenever- in the future- you find yourself feeling sorry for him, switch the sorry feelings and feel sorry for yourself, get on your side, again and again.

Every person that abuses another does it because he or she is suffering. But not every person that suffers abuses another.

My goodness, what a day (or evening, your time…I don’t know)…

Post again, anytime.

anita