Thanks for the advice Inky and Anita

Anita, I probably have had these feelings before with a close friend about 20 years ago. My friend is very complex and at times down so I go into a counselling role with him. I know its not my job to do that but I am always there for him. He has bipolar and can’t see his way through sometimes and I always seem to make him think differently.

I feel like I will be lonely without him. Honestly that has not happened but it is a real big fear playing on my behalf.

I feel like if he is with other people that I am not good enough.

Have been with him now for 2 days in a row. We get along really well (usually)

I saw my psychiatrist today, he said that I have to live with these feelings of abandonment. They are not real and I need to see them through. The past predicts the future. I feel that the friendship will end but this has obviously not happened.