I’m in awe Pevelry of how quickly you have gained so much perspective on your relationship and yourself in such a small amount of time. I agree 100% with all your points. Mine has taken quite a bit longer but I’ve also learnt:

– when you focus too much on someone else, you take the focus off yourself and that is too much pressure for anyone to bear
– each having your own space is a good thing and you need that to look after yourself, pursue your own interests if your to create your own happiness
– that it’s ok not to have all the answers or not to know. Rather than looking for the answers, I need to be more curious why I feel the way do.
– if you keep looking back or too far forward you lose sight of what you actually have
– that it’s good to be vulnerable with what you need but you can’t demand anything from anyone, they have needs too and you need to explore how your needs can be met together
– that listening is one of the most important gifts you can give someone. Show them that they have been heard.

The last thing I know is that I’d rather me happy than right.