Dear Name:

I like your insight! I know anger and it can feel like a fire burning inside the chest!

It is my experience that underneath the anger there is fear. But back to the anger: there is a message in the anger. The message is that you are hurt, that someone you cared about …or still care about hurt you. Automatically, when you are hurt, you feel fear of that pain, that hurt and you want to fight back, to hurt back. It is natural, animals experience that too! When an animal is hurt by another, right before it fights, it feels anger, that fire in the chest, and that anger motivates it to fight.

We as humans can think… a lot and we often do not fight and often we shouldn’t fight (or end up in jail…) so the anger stays inside us. What to do? Realize the message in the anger: that you were unfairly hurt, through no fault of your own. This is easier said than done, but through a process it is possible to do, and then the anger calms down.

Can’t get rid of the anger, or extinguish it until you “hear’ its message

What do you think?

anita