Nan,

I’m so sorry to hear about the relationship with your mother. I hope you have moved on from the grief and fear of that relationship.

Your situation is not an easy one. I would first suggest having a talk with your current husband so you can get things off your chest and be respectful of him as your partner. Plan out what you want to say if you feel like that will help. I would also be sure that you and your first husband are on the same page and have the same expectations. Then things will be able to move forward. One step at at time.