Dear Shelly:

As I just read your post about him emailing you, I got excited myself, positively excited and hopeful. That was my automatic reaction, and looking at your post I sense you are excited as well! Elated and hopeful!!!

Okay, this is an opportunity. I see you are willing but are cautious. If this thread is helpful, could be helpful to you, I would like to be here for you in what is to come. Excitement is good but for best thinking, of course, calmness is necessary. I suppose this is why you looked at Mindfulness videos. Friday, this is the day after tomorrow. Some preparing to do?

First, I wouldn’t fight my feelings of excitement and hope and I will share those with him. Be real with him, honest and expect him to be the same. So do not add to your distress trying to hide your real feelings. It is okay to be excited and hopeful, and scared all at the same time. And realistically, solving problems of past relationship with him, problems brought into the relationship by both (!) parties: you and him- these problems cannot be solved before you see him and they cannot be solved on Friday! It will take willingness, honest communication, awareness of what is going on with you… and with him, and over time, solutions are possible.

Post anytime!

anita