Hey, E.

It’s my first time here, I actually have never seen that Tiny Buddha has a forum, but I absolutely just HAD to answer you.

First of all, I want you to know you are not alone. In fact, I was thinking exactly the same thing yesterday and today. A while ago I went through two episodes of sexual violences, made by two different men in two different situations. I knew it was pretty serious, but I had no idea how much it would still affect me and my life after a year. I realized this because I saw myself in a situation that slightly reminded me of one of the episodes and I freaked out completey, my anxiety increased immediately and I just couldn’t handle this alone.

I must tell you that finding the courage to share this with people is incredible and I admire you so much for this! Honestly, I can’t tell if it’s right or wrong, if you should or shouldn’t do this. It is something so personal and so delicate, it’s not up to anyone to tell you this. I think that, if you feel comfortable with the person and if YOU want to tell this, than go ahead. It must be important for you, and only for you, because right now you must take such good care of yourself.

Just don’t feel that you’re not worthy or that you can’t be in a relationship because of this, that’s nonsense. You are on your way to recovery and it takes time, so don’t worry about that. The fact that you can share this is beautiful, and unfortunately some people won’t recognize it, but it’s not your problem. You must keep on doing what you feel is right for you, I guess.

I really hope you feel better, because that’s what you (and we all!) deserve. Sending you my best wishes, ok? And thank you so much for sharing your experience! 🙂