Dear Tee,

Have you discussed your points with him?

I understand what you mentioned about “having plans” since I had the same challenge..I try to look at it as a sharing and discussion point in my relationship … needless to say each of us coming from different background and think differently and even though you have been together for 6 years your belief system and behaviour you have today rooted in childhood and more years of experience than that. It takes time for every two people from different worlds to get used to each other’s worlds. see for yourself if his good qualities, like making you feel safe, prevails the things you don’t see in him? and if he’s willing to improve and obtain the qualities you wish for?

Just to share my personal thought on “if it was right to break up”: it is always precious to “build” a relationship…we learn from each other…going through challenges and differences in life opens up our horizons and helps to see the world from someone else’s eye.

I hope the best you want, happens to you,
Peace,

Ana