Dear hurts:

My thoughts about Love, Respect and Hurt (your user name: “hurt”):

Love, true love respects the loved one. True love doesn’t hurt.

When I, when you, when anyone submits to another, that is let another do with you as he wishes while you don’t want it done, you submit, surrender, give him the message: “I am not important. You are important. Do with me as you wish!”

When he does with you as he wishes although you don’t want it done, he says: “I am important. you are not important. I will do with you as I wish!”

In case of voluntary submission, as in your case, as used to be in my case, as is in many people’s cases, lives… this is a behavior resulting from both parties agreeing that one is important and the other is not.

You cared for this man then long before sexual contact. It seems to me that he is all excited about sex, maybe with any woman, maybe with any woman or person he finds attractive enough. He is just excited about sex and that is most or all of what he sees. This is his excitement, his playground. That is all he cares about presently. Maybe it will change, maybe he will care about you or another woman in his future. Being his playground, for the day, or the evening, is not going to speed up his potential ability to love and respect you.

What you can do to maximize his potential to love you is to NOT submit to him, no sexual contact whatsoever.

anita