Dear Andy:

In your original post you wrote: “Met a girl in high school and we dated. 4 years of typical couple things. Fun, fights, love. Things that are normal” and next you wrote that she was your first everything, your first relationship. Since you are now 20, it must have started when you were 16.

What is peculiar to me is: how do you know that those four years were a “typical couple things” and “things that are normal”- after all, you have nothing to compare it to from your own experience. So how do you know it was typical and normal…

Then you wrote that she broke your heart in December but other than suggesting you were seeing each other less before that, you have no details about that breakup. And then you wrote that she tried to get back with you and you rejected her.

Overall, it may be that there are a lot that you don’t see about this relationship, or else you didn’t share it, or make it clear. For the purpose of you learning from your own experience, you may want to look back and learn from it.

It is possible that the things you didn’t see… that she was trying to express to you and maybe she did but there was no reaction from you and so she gave up completely on getting across to you….

???

anita