Dear Carolina:

The time you and he planned on going on a weekend trip together and you started feeling sick, told him you may not be able to go. Next he told you he is thinking about going with his friends. You told him that you were hurt that he was thinking of not being with you that weekend while you may be sick. Next you told him you may be able to go on the trip with him, went to a doctor, told him the doctor said it is okay for you to go on the trip. But he cancelled it.

This weekend trip thing you described smells of manipulation to me, manipulation on your part from the moment he told you he was thinking of going with his friends (if not before). It was okay for him to want to go with his friends because you were not very sick, probably nothing serious (as it turned out to be nothing serious). But you “rained on his parade”- for a reason. I don’t know the reason.

Do you?

anita