Dear Andy:

Don’t rush yourself to move forward, try to not even want to move forward. The way this works is you accept the way things are, the way you feel. You accept being stuck and then, naturally you will get unstuck and you will move forward.

The more you want a feeling to stop, this pain, the more it will stay. You accept it, welcome it even, truly and … it sort of gets bored and goes away. It is like a guest you hate having, this pain, you really want it gone. But the more you hate it, the more it wants to stay.

You welcome it, and it doesn’t feel like staying anymore. Can you imagine it working like that? There is a saying: What you resist- persists. You resist this heartache, you want it gone, you fight it… and it will stay. Let it in, take it all in, let it be, and it will move through and away from you.

anita