Forum Friend Anita,

That is correct, although I hadn’t thought of it that way until you said it. Interesting to hear it back through a different perspective.

I do not have contact with my mother anymore. It was too draining.

Her accounts of my childhood have very little to do with reality and always star her in the perfect parent role. Anything she doesn’t want to admit to is denied and then she uses fights ir silent treatments to further avoid talking about things. She wouldn’t ever admit that she has been anything but wonderful, which suggests to me that she already knows it was wrong.