It sounds like you are enjoying the “chase” and the excitement of meeting new people but not the people themselves. You may just not be ready for a relationship at this point in your life…there’s nothing wrong with that as long as you are honest with both yourself and people you date. If that’s the case, go out and date a lot of different people. Date one guy that’s for concerts and one that’s for taking out to museums. Date one that you go to movies with and one that you hang out in Starbucks and discuss politics with. It’s a social misconception that you MUST choose ONE person and exclusively date them. But, as I said, be honest about it.

The second option is that you’re trying to fill a void in your life that is impossible to fill this way and that’s why it seems right at first but quickly falls apart. Or why you seem to be looking for reasons to reject the men. If you suspect that’s the case I’d start with some quiet meditation and deep soul searching to see if you can figure out WHAT your looking for OR trying to avoid. You may need the help of a counselor for this part.

Good luck and kudos to you for recognizing the issue and being able to define it.