Dear Faye:

I am in no way an authority on Buddhism. I am familiar with the principles. This is my personal input to you regarding the principle of unattachment in relationships to things and to people: it is impossible. At times you will feel unattached and happy, oh the relief. But it is impossible to maintain it for life. Maybe not even for a day.

It is simply not possible because we are social animals, genetically. We are born that way: born with the strongest attachment imaginable to our main care taker, usually the mother. Just like the other mammals and other animals.

But unattachment is not a useless principle, or concept. On the continuum of an adult being overly attached, to one’s detriment on one end, and on the other end of the continuum, being unattached (an impossibility)- it is a good principle to practice Moderation (another Buddhist principle).

What do you think about what I wrote here?

anita