Hello Wendy,

There needs to be a healthy and respectful balance when it comes to constructive criticism. To criticize lovingly to help and improve someone who may be having a difficult time is one thing but to criticize in order to cut somebody else down to make you feel better, is not healthy or respectful at all.

If my partner were to ask me what positive traits I see in her, I would be happy to answer her and tell her of all her positive traits that she exudes and carries. If he/she cannot do that, then there is something wrong with this person. I personally feel that it’s not a difficult answer to give to the woman you love.

You’re not over-reacting or being too sensitive, as open communication with your partner is vital for a strong, loving and healthy relationship to succeed. The reason why we fall in love with a person in the first place, is because of all their positive traits they exude.

Wendy, my thoughts about what you should do, is to tell him how you are feeling but since he won’t pick up your calls, that in itself is a very immature way to behave towards you. Someone who truly loves their partner and wants the best for them, is to be communicative and willing to rationalize while calmly listening to you from a loving stand-point. Love is about coming together and being selfless, while working as team with each other and not working against each other by constantly pointing out their flaws.

If he’s not willing or able to have an equal, respectful, loving, communicative and most importantly non-judgmental relationship with you. Then it’s best you let him go, you don’t deserve someone who’s going to cut you down, cut you off by not wanting to be communicative towards you and most importantly you don’t need or want someone who just doesn’t care to want to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with you.

Please let us know how you are doing and you’re more than welcome to come and post/talk to anyone on here at anytime. I may not be around due to work but there are many loving people here, who are willing to support you the best way they can with their helpful advice.

Sending you lots of love, positivity and light your way.

M.