Figuring out how to recognize love is definitely a long term objective with therapy.

“Could be he felt safe, expecting you to push him away again?”
This is something I hadn’t really thought of before. I gave up trying to figure him out long ago. I am interested in the short term to figure out what was making him keep me within arms reach. It’s not about him, but in the past I have found it helpful to try and figure out what I was susceptible to so I can recognize and avoid it.