Hi Zenseeker74,

Yes I have recently given up on a “friendship” with a narcissist. I never thought the guy was a narc until I googled hot and cold behaviour and found that these people exist. Just in a year of our friendship, I felt so much highs and lows I thought there was something wrong with me. He’d made me feel like we were best mates and then treat me with disrespect and repeat the process over and over. You’d think narcs were loud and obnoxious people who thought the world of themselves but this person was a covert narc and hence although there were red flags, I ignored them, gave him so many chances and benefit of the doubt that it was ridiculous.

When I started kicking up a fuss he would just disappear without a word and I would wonder if our friendship meant nothing at all. Now I know it doesn’t – it was all a mirage and I was just a victim.

It hurt for so many months but now I am starting to feel better. In fact, I am glad that I got the opportunity to realise that such pathetic heartless people exist out there and they really do not deserve people who love and care for them. You’re better off spending that love on yourself.