Dear Karene:

You mentioned that you suffer from body dysmorphia, social phobia and that you are antisocial. And he has schizophrenia.
These disorders (root cause is fear) play a big part in the interactions you have with him and your thoughts and feelings about him, as in during the weekends when you are not working.

You wonder about his FB presentations: isn’t he aware of what’s in there? How can he have this page knowing you are looking at it? Good questions. Here are possible answers, only possible: He sees nothing wrong with following women he doesn’t know. Maybe he believes he does know those women and that they are following him as well. (Hallucinations and delusions are part of the diagnosis of schizophrenia). Maybe what is real and what is not real are (at least at times), mixed in his mind and he can’t tell the difference.

Those women on his FB that he likes for their looks, he liked them before he met you. It is very possible that in his mind, he does not know that you are offended by those photos, that you are comparing your looks to those women’s looks. He probably never entertained those thoughts.

It is possible that he has never had a physical relationship with a woman, too afraid to, and that he finds comfort in fantasy. In his interactions with you, his real and fantasy world come together, but he may not know or care to know what is real and what is not.

Did you ask him questions in the past? About his illness (he told you about it, is that how you know?) Did you talk with him? You can clarify a lot of your questions if you could talk with him.

And if things became clear to you, if you could see yourself, and accept, what is real and what is not, you will have peace of mind. It is not only people suffering from schizophrenia who believe things are true that are not true, we all do. This is why we have to ask, examine, check and find out for ourselves what is really going on.

Please post again with your thoughts…?

anita