Dear dreaming715,

I share your resentment and confusion as I just experienced a similar situation that broke my heart and left me kind of hopeless..
I’m 30, like my ex-boyfriend, who after 6 years together cheated on me right during the time when we were apart because he had moved to NY, where I was supposed to join him after 9 months to start our new life together. It took him 6 months to confess the affair, and by that time I had already moved to NY and could not understand why he looks so distant and ‘depressed’.
After confessing he asked me to forgive him saying that I was the one for him. I did, or at least I decided to try, and we rented a new home together with a 1yr lease. After another 6 months, he moved out and left me saying that he was confused about his feelings. I have known this person for 15 years and we had been so close during the 6 and a half years that we were together, making big life choices and plans.

I simply cannot understand how he could be so selfish and incapable of communicating to me that something so big was going through his mind. I would have never expected him to hurt me so much. I’ve tried to ask him what was wrong so many times, but nothing. He tricked me with his words and promises, and was incapable of simply telling me the truth and admit that he was not going to be able to meet all those promises.

Now I have to cope with being cut off his life completely and to me it is just so painful and stupid. I thought that at 30 men would be more empathetic and less immature. Now I wonder if I have to look for older men.
But it is just so difficult to accept and to have faith again in honest relationships.

Thank you for reading. Please share your thoughts 🙂