Hi Kakelinå,

Be gentle with yourself now. The relationship, by your account, has ended. In many ways a death has occured in your life. Death of a dream with this man, loss of the intimacy that you shared, loss of the friendship.

Allow yourself time to grieve. Embracing the loss is a valuable teacher. Allowing time to heal and rediscover the me ourside of the us.

That you are hesitant to jump into a new relationship shows that you are healthy and not trying to cover up the sadness with the buzz of a new love. So give yourself some credit and take care of yourself.

Those tender tendrils of love that connect us with others need time to heal and reorganize before you can again approach a new relationship wholeheartedly.

Is it possible to share this with your new oppportunity? People come and go in our lives. If you can share the difficulties that you are facing in yourself, and he understands, maybe this could be a good starting place for something new.

Thanks for your vulnerability and willingness to share here.

Jerry