I agree with both.

When I was really angry as a teen I would go for a run and sometimes I would bolt as hard as I could until I became exhausted and had to stop. I think it shows how intensely consuming anger is and how abruptly it stops. I have been angry most of my life for past events and even to this day it affects me. It clouds my mind, consumes my thoughts, reduces positive feelings, etc.

I have finally learned of a few things I can do to calm myself down but it is often hard because I succumb to “blind rage.” But it they might be effective for others too.

I think it is important to walk away and be by yourself. When I am around someone that has made me angry or is making me angry I walk away and tell them I need space. I think it’s important to let them know that you need time to calm down so they don’t take it even more personally.

Most people think this is running away from problems but to me it is effective to get some clearance from the trigger and breathe. Once the trigger is out of my physical sight I try to breathe deeply and once my physiological reaction has subsided, I can rationally talk myself down.

Anger is the most irrational emotion. It is by far the most consuming more than love in my opinion and easiest to have. I think people are more apt to anger than to love. It is destructive not only to the mental and physical self but to other living things. I think it is wise that from an early age people learn to develop a sense of emotional intelligence, to recognize their reactions and find personal solutions to come back to rationality.