Dear ‘Fe Martin’

i have read your note, and i hope this will help.
a breakup is a awful thing to have to go through.
and i believe so many people forget themselves when they break up with someone. and i am asking you, have you forgotten yourself?
Do you have a job you enjoy? good people in your life who make you laugh lots and they stand by you and support you? do you do hobbies and things you enjoy?
i think a little crying is good, it lets it all out. and i think you should do a list of everything you want to do for yourself.
things you want to do or change. and this helps,
it will help keep you positive, keep you busy and allow you to learn to look after yourself.
in time you can look at this breakup and learn the problems which were in it, so that you know what you can learn from it to improve in a new relationship when the time is right, it also means you can look at yourself and what you truly need and want.
always look at what you can learn, and in time you can look at the relationship and think of all the good, and keep those good memories and there is not any harm in keeping good memories as long as you don’t dwell to much on them.
right now think about yourself.
good food, good friends good laughs, allow yourself to heal, learn and think about your own needs.
Your parents arent you, and i know people say you are like your parents and so on,
and it may seem harsh but they have made there bed they can lay in it.
you don’t have to be your parents, you can look at them and learn from them and be a better stronger person, allow those mistakes they have made, allow them to help you become the better person you want to be.
allow love in your life, and this begins by loving yourself.
i hope this helps, let me know how it goes, always here if you need a friend

Em