Fe,

You ask a great question! How could he text me hurtful things? Did he ever love me?

I don’t know his heart, so part of that is something I cannot speak on. However, it reminds me of my child who tells me all of the reasons why she didn’t want that toy I told her she could not have. It is only a guess, but it sounds like he is unskillfully grieving, and those texts are his way of generating distance between the you in his memory and the you that is there. “I never really wanted that Dora toy anyway, I hate Dora.”

With warmth,
Matt