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Hi there, good day everyone. I was looking for a perfect place for me to share my suffering so that I will get help and advice from all part of the world. Please mind my english as Im not that good in writing. Well Im 27 now, when I was reaching 22 I was hit by my first breakup. There is where I went through alot of suffering and pain and unfortunately that time I lost all my friends because I isolated myself. I lived in hell for 2 years. I lost almost everything. I lost my business,my remaining money,my car,my bike and few valuable items. I went jobless and I was living with my parents and yet my appearance is like homeless dude. My entire life went upside down. My perceptions totally changed. My world changed. I lived in that pile of shit for 2 years. My life went zero and wasted for 2 years, I started to smoke alot and drinks too. I lived in fear,trauma,anxiety,depression,post traumatic stress and you name it I had it all. After 2 years I decided to move on, I didnt knew that that whole negative part of me as I mentioned i had was suppressed. I didnt knew that Im not healed. When I was 24, I never expect the whole episode gonna take place again when I met my second girlfriend. She lives almost 200 miles away from my place. I knew her though a friend of mine. I started to get to know her and I fell in love with her just through phone. For six month I madly in love with her. After 6 month I met her for the 1st time and that was the most precious moment of my life. I started to build my life and Im convinced that I lived just because of her. My whole life is her. By the end of that year, I found a job for her near my place which just 15 minutes away from my home. Her mom and she came to my house for the 1st time and I introduced her to my mom. I was the most happiest man in the whole world,my girl will be so close to me. She started work and I will be with almost everyday. Weekends she will be staying with me. I was so madly deeply in love with her. Im attached emotionally and physically. I took care of her like a baby. I feed her, I’ll put her for sleep, I’ll make her laugh by dancing funny dance and when she was admitted for food poisoning i was with her in that hospital for 3 days. Everybody around me use to say that she must be lucky to get me. 10 month went on and she changed her work place. She joined a new company with new friends. Where she start to cheat me. She found another guy who is in higher post and she bought a new phone which i dont know she had. For a month she started to avoid me by not talking to me, not meeting me often. She said if she meets me, I make love with her,which she describes not necessary. It was new for me. one day i decided to check on her bag and i found a phone with intimate messages with him. I should have died that moment. When i went and ask for explanation she just walk away and said we will talk tomorrow. I was holding her leg and crying and begging. She walk away and thats it. She changed her number and made a police report on me saying ‘My ex is disturbing me” and police spoke to me saying if i tried to meet her ill have myself arrested. After that i met her 4 times and that for times was really hurting. She humiliates me,she chased me and even hold her shoe and saying she will slap with that if i ever disturb her again. I hold her leg and begging for mercy in front of some people yet she turn away from me. Its been 4 month now, almost once in a week ill go to her place and ill have a smoke and comeback. Atleast i was near her place. I cant move on. My life become terrible more than before. She is so near yet i didnt met her months. I lost everything again, I tried committed suicide,unfortunately i survived. I resigned my job 4 month ago. Again I lost my saving and all the money I have. I dont feel like living anymore. What happens to me was injustice and cruel. I lost my confidence and motivation. As im typing this now, I cant stop crying as my inner part is greatly in pain. Everything is still fresh for me. People around me gives up on me. Even my mom. I dont have a purpose to live anymore. I cant go to the places we use to hang out. I didnt eat and sleep well for few month. if anyone out there can help to explain whats goin on to me, i would really appreciate it. I have set a deadline for me,maybe another 2 month. If im convinced that the whole episode goin to happen in my life again and if its goin to drag me another few years, I cant take it anymore. I just wanna put and end for my suffering and pain.
thank you and sorry its a long story.
Well, I don’t even know where to start. But I guess I’ll start here…
I’m a 25 year old women, turning 26 this year. Just a few years ago I used to be full of life, I was driven and had confidence. Over the years, that has changed. The only way that I can explain it, is the other day I read something, where someone had written “When did the future switch from a promise to a threat” and that completely summarises my life. I’m completely afraid right now. I am anxious all of the time and I hate it.
I’m anxious about my financial future. I’ve even developed a debilitating fear of driving – yes driving. I literally begin to get anxiety attacks at the thought of having to go somewhere. It’s so bad that I find myself making excuses to not see my friends just so I won’t have to drive. I’ve been wanting to start a clothing boutique, I’m from South Africa and I’m supposed to go to Thailand to go shop for clothes and I haven’t even spoken to my agent yet, I guess I’m afraid of the clothing boutique failing. I hardly go out any more because I just never feel good enough about myself. It’s like if I could find a dark room to lock myself into, just to shut the world out, I would. I love my boyfriend to bits but I’m afraid that he’ll cheat on me, sometimes I’m afraid he’ll want to leave me for someone more confident, I’m afraid I’ll push him away. I’ve become so image and body conscious it’s scary.
I’m afraid because I want to turn my life around but I don’t know how to do it on my own. I’m so tired of crying, feeling despair and hurting. I can’t remember the last time I smiled, a real smile – the kind of smile that lights up your soul. Instead I suffer from terrible insomnia, I’m always tired and always feel like I’m on the verge of a mental and emotional breakdown. Sometimes I’ll wake up and my heart will just be beating ridiculously fast.
I literally feel paralysed by anxiety and fear.
I am a dreamer, I know that I have so much to offer the world but I just wish that I could stop getting into my own way. But right now I don’t how. Bad habits have become a safety net for me. I’m always willing to help others out. I love giving back. I love seeing other people happy. Why can’t I make myself happy?
I just need someone who will understand, who can help me and walk me through what to do. I feel so helpless and afraid.
In order to prevent my peers from trailing off in bordem I shall condense my story.
My parents had a very traumatic divorce resulting in jail time for father and abandonment from mother.
Bullied ar school due to anxiety (later diagnosed as Hyperthyroidism)
Friends treated me as a 2nd best.
I married for security and moved to remote location having two children leaving everyone behind me.
Finally diagnosed for hyperthyroidism and given radio therapy.
Now miss my friends and all I threw away as a result of my mental health.
I have met someone new who makes me feel really, really happy.
My wife is upset as she supported me for the last 8 years and know I want out.
I know I am responsible for her hurt but cannot help my new self.
I am finally confident in me and want more than a reclusive life. My wife likes this reclusive place.
Please don’t judge as I know I am horrid but just want to be happy.
Am I just rebounding? The new girl really makes my heart sing but I am not sure she feels the same.
Help me please and thanks in advance for anything said. Anything goes here xo please no moderation. P