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Topic: Somebody please listen to me
Hello…..I need a friend who is willing to listen to me and give me a piece of advise
This year has been emotionally very traumatic but has been rewarding as well. However I have no motivation left …I have been living in the shadow of fear of being misjudged and losing everything I haveEarly this year a long term relationship Came to an end as my ex walked away instead of standing up for our relationship under his family influence. Besides that I discovered a few friends took my advantage as an opportunity to establish themselves and later bullied me. In a way now I’m glad they are not a part of my life anymore.I was heart broken …felt deceived…was very depressed and panicked ..moved cities to start a better life…
Soon after few weeks I lost one of my family members in an accident who was very dear to me.their untimely passing away left me with no hope. I felt there was nothing good left in life for me or my family. Later I came across a lovely man, who is now my husband. Even though I lived my life independently I come from a conservative background.I happened to discuss my past with my husband before we decided to get married as I wanted to make sure We were taking an informed decision instead of inviting unnecessary drama of past life into married life. My husband reassured me he doesn’t care about my past and he is a practical person with a positive outlook towards life and relationships.However I still keep worrying that there are wolves around us and that we need to keep us safe from them.
One of my friends who I always considered a trustworthy friend started behaving indifferently towards me ever since my ex broke up with me. They know everything about my personal life and whenever they saw me in person they were passing indecent comments by illustrating someone else’s circumstances that I could relate to me and my past. I discovered that they were directing those comments towards me. This person kept playing mind games with me.. They would encourage me and the next moment they would say something that deeply hurt my existence on this planet. They have been so insensitive about the death in my family too. Their harsh words (they misjudged my character) at times influenced me to rethink about my marriage. My family kept motivating me and reminded me how I lived my life so far without compromising on my values and honesty and that I should just believe things will fall in place. I could not avoid this person completely as I really hold a sense of respect for our friendship and I have gratitude towards them for being there for me during tough times in the past. I kept being patient with this person as I could sense they are not being themselves by acting indifferently towards me & that they will get back to their normal self. I contacted this person recently and they are still quite insensitive towards me and now I feel they are rejoicing the death of my family member.
Overall my fault is I over trusted my ex & my friends. Gave them an opportunity to deceive me. I’m just so exhausted with what ever happened in my life. I’m greatful to have been married to a man who is loving, practical and matured however I’m still living a fake life. I’m scared of being misjudged & labeled. I’m forced to keep in touch with sheep skinned wolves who I’m afraid they may talk bad about me and my past to my husband’s acquaintances. Ever since I lost my family member I have lost faith that everyone around me wants to bring me down. They cannot see me happy. The experiences I have had with people has created a sense of doubt in me towards everyone and everything. How can someone be cruel , & they know you are already suffering. Do you just stay quite , accept their harsh judgements (ignore) and let them walk all over you to protect yourself as they have known your life and they have power to screw your life? How can I tell them enough is enough? I do not wish to live with this fear anymore or I better die. I don’t want to be a cause of trouble to my husband in anyway. Why should I suffer when I haven’t done anything wrong. Is this what you get for sticking by your values and being honest – pain & deceit?
Stay Blessed