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  • #439604
    Helcat
    Participant

    Hi Jana

    Thank you for your kind words of support for my family! ❤️ It is true, life is a test. 😊

    You have a beautiful family and your love for them is inspiring. If you ask me, pets count as family too!

    I think my resolution will be to spend less time on my phone and more time with the ones I love. And to make sure that everyone feels equally loved.

    I really should learn more about the EFT, you are making me curious about it. I’ve never tried it before.

    I’m sorry to hear that you were beaten by boys when you were younger. I think you did a really good job healing from your past!

    I see, well the experience with your neighbour does sound unexpected and stressful. Sometimes it can take a bit of time to recover from these things. I know that you meditate, do you have any other self-care practices?

    Love, peace and best wishes! ❤️🙏

    #439625
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    My posts here are again “awaiting moderation”. It has been many hours since I sent them. I included a picture and two links. Maybe I shouldn’t continue posting here because I need to express myself more with emojis, pics, inspirational links and it is obviously a huge problem. It is demotivating for me.

     

    I wanted to explain EFT for you which is not possible without a picture……

     

    Maybe by e-mail?

     

    This was sent on Nov 23, at 20:45 in Czechia.

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    #439627
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    I can feel your frustration and it’s understandable that you feel frustrated following these difficulties. What I do before I submit each and every post is, I copy it first, then submit. If it fails to submit, I still have the copy and can re-submit. If a post doesn’t go through because of a link, you can resubmit without the link.

    You can also contact the website owner on the matter (HOME=> CONTACT top left of the homepage) and ask for help.

    I don’t want tiny buddha to lose you as a contributing member!!

    (I will be away from the computer for the rest of the day).

    anita

    #439638
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    It is a good idea. It is true that it is a bit annoying. You prepare your post, you take your precious time to look up information, sort out and write down your thoughts and you look forward to getting some replies. And then your post is awaiting moderation and it has been many hours (more than a week in case of one of my posts) and you still have no information. Was it deleted? If so, why? Is it still waiting? Hmmmmmm…

    (Nov 24, 9:57)

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    #439639
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    I continue with my journal

    I don’t want to get rid of my introversion and sensitivity (and I don’t think it is possible). On the one hand I enjoy being introvert a lot. I love being alone only with animals, in the woods, in the meadows and tops of the hills. I feel strong connection to nature. It is my world, my healing… spiritual and physical too. (I actually use a lot of herbs for many illnesses and troubles… I’ve never had antibiotics in my life.) I am happy that thanks to my sensitivity I can feel a lot of beautiful and beneficial things around me: smells, sounds, sights, … I can tell the difference between a cat and a dog with closed eyes just by the smell. 🙂 There are many old pines around our house and I love their smell, especially when the sun heats them a lot in the summer, they produce very comforting scent. I like meditating listening to the wind and birds singing around… And I could write on and on and on… I also enjoy just my presence. I like being only with myself because I am peaceful and calm and I am very happy and joyful inside most of my time alone.
     
    But on the other hand, I know that it is a stumbling block when it comes to contact with people. I am like a sponge. I absorb the energies around a lot… and I absorb people’s energies and moods, as well. And when people are stressed, angry, upset, … that’s when I feel the fear of them…
    I have troubles when my boyfriend comes home and he needs to unburden to me. When he really gets into an unpleasant situation from work and gets a little bit angry because of some managers etc., I start to feel uncomfortable and have a need to “detach” (which means that I usually stop listening carefully and I am somewhere else in my head, if you know what I mean) … I can literally feel my energy waning and I get tired and I feel stressed a little bit. He would never ever hurt me. And he knows this about me and he tries to be more attentive. 
     
    I absord his energy in other situations, too. When he is a bit nervous in a car, when he is grumpy when he cannot smoke (he is a smoker), when he doesn’t feel comfortable in a group of people or when he is sick… I mean, I am grateful for this, too. It is a positive thing in a relationship. But I need to find some strategies to control my “absorbing”…
     
    The biggest problem is with stragers. When they have a very strong energy, such as anger, and they are also loud and dominant, it is really overwhelming for me. And this is the fear… this is the situation when I feel the fear of people… I am not afraid of people as such but rather their negative energies which get into me. After absorbing anger etc., I feel confused… because it is not my feeling… but the effect is in me… I need to work on this.

    (written on Nov 24, at 10:04)

     

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    #439619
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    🕊️ Emotional Freedom Technique 🕊️

    Hello! I would like to share a simple guide to how work on your feelings and emotions with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) by Gary Craig. Someone who will come across my journal might find it useful.

    This version of EFT is simplified and it doesn’t include an exercise with eyes. Look at this picture (I hope you can see it in this post – let me know)

    emotional freedom technique - tapping points

    1. Think of an issue you have. And get really into it. Do not just think about it, but take your time and focus deeply and fully on feelings and emotions that this issue arouses in you.

    2. You can measure the intensity of your feelings and emotions with these emojis: 😊 – 🙂 – 😐 – ☹️ – 😢 or from 1 (the least intense feeling) to 10 (the most intense feeling)

    2. You don’t have to do this step. You can tap without saying anything and just focus on the feelings and emotions. However, for some it works better when they can express their emotions in words. And there is the affirmative sentence to accept yourself and your feelings which is quite important. You can prepare your statement: (I created an example statement here:) Even though I feel devastated after our break-up, I love myself and accept myself deeply as I am.

    3. Close your eyes. Get into your emotions and say your statement three times aloud and keep tapping your outer palm.

    4. Get into your emotions or say your statement and continue tapping from point one to nine in the picture. Don’t worry if you skip a point. I know people who skip the point Center of head and I personally starts with outer palm (saying three times a statement or simply feeling the emotions for a while deeply), then I just feel the emotions or say main feeling (such as in the example “feeling devastated”) and tap inner eye, outer eye, below eye, below nose, below lip, collar bone, below armpit and forearm near my palm. Do not hurry, it is also a form of mindfulness. You have to do it carefully and be very mindful of your feelings and emotions.

    5. Open your eyes. You will naturally breath out… Think about any changes – better, worse. Check your feelings with emojis (or numbers), if you need. Tap until you feel relieve and you would identify with the first happy emoji. 😊 (or number one – no negative emotion, just neutral) Some feelings take MANY rounds of tapping… my personal exeprience with social phobia – years of tapping. The thing is that when you get into a deep problem, a lot of forgotten memories and negative emotions arouse. You need to tap them all.

    You can ask any questions, if you need.
    (written on Nov 23, 7:52)

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    #439620
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    🪷 Buddhism – inspirational links 🪷

    I also would like to share with you links I find inspirational and helpful for my/our growth.

    Thich Hanh – The Art of Mindful Living, part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDXcIaUKHDU

    Thich Hanh – The Art of Mindful Living, part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JlEqlqzkpT4

    PS: I’ll come back later. I am working on my promises to my beloved ones, meditation and mindful living. I think I have also figured out why certain energies in people still bother me. I’ll write more later. 🦋
    (written on Nov 23, 8:02)

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    #439647
    Roberta
    Participant

    dear Jana

    Thank you for posting the article on EFT

    I just wathed this vid on protecton techniques https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh544wTLmqU.

    It is so important for empaths home to be their safe place. Doing ceremonies like sage smudging & having a rock salt lamp may help. Also if you have an outside space it is good to write down what has bothered you the breath deeply & slowly watching it go up in smoke, your boyfriend may be open to doing that as well. You could design a ritual that you two spend the first 30 mins at home doing something that is calming  & grounding together and then only to spend say 5-10 mins discussing anything that has a negative bias. Hopefully doing something positive together will allow some calm clear sighted perspective on any troubling situation.

    I have noticed even a small  life niggle can effect how I fee & interact with others & that I must be vigilant about not accumulating baggage both mine & others.

    I look forward to your & others insights on this

    #439650
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    I understand the annoying part. I have no technological ability in regard to managing a website (and about almost everything when it comes to computers), but from what I understand, there is a lot of work involved, and it can be overwhelming, particularly with no help.

    On the one hand I enjoy being introvert a lot. I love being alone only with animals, in the woods, in the meadows and tops of the hills. I feel strong connection to nature. It is my world, my healing… And I could write on and on and on“- I feel serene just by reading your words about your experiences in and with nature.

    I like being only with myself because I am peaceful and calm and I am very happy and joyful inside most of my time alone“- you read like a healthy person in every way.

    But on the other hand, I know that it is a stumbling block when it comes to contact with people. I am like a sponge…  I absorb people’s energies and moods, as well. And when people are stressed, angry, upset.. that’s when I feel the fear of them“- this indicates a high level of empathy and emotional sensitivity. You are highly receptive to the emotional climate of your environment, taking in both positive and negative energies. You not only sense but also internalize the moods and emotional states of those around you. Negative emotions in others, such as stress, anger, or upset, trigger a fear response in you. This could be due to past experiences or a heightened sensitivity to conflict and tension.Being highly sensitive to negative emotions makes a person more vulnerable to stress and anxiety, particularly in tense or hostile environments. This heightened sensitivity suggests the importance of self-care strategies to protect one own emotional well-being, such as setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, and seeking supportive relationships.

    When (your boyfriend) really gets into an unpleasant situation from work and gets a little bit angry… I start to feel uncomfortable and have a need to ‘detach’… I usually stop listening carefully and I am somewhere else in my head… I get tired and I feel stressed a little bit. He would never ever hurt me. And he knows this about me and he tries to be more attentive“- you absorb the negative emotions and stress of your boyfriend when he has a difficult day at work. To manage the overwhelming emotions, you mentally detach/ withdraw or dissociate from the situation. This detachment is a way to protect yourself from the negative energy, but it also leads to a lack of presence and attentiveness in the moment. Your boyfriend’s awareness and attempts to be more attentive demonstrate his understanding and support.

    I absorb his energy in other situations, too. When he is a bit nervous in a car… I need to find some strategies to control my ‘absorbing’… The biggest problem is with strangers. When they have a very strong energy, such as anger, and they are also loud and dominant, it is really overwhelming for me… their negative energies which get into me. After absorbing anger etc., I feel confused.. because it is not my feeling… but the effect is in me… I need to work on this“- continually absorbing negative emotions from others depletes your energy, leading to feelings of fatigue and stress. The inability to differentiate between your own feelings and those you absorb from others creates a sense of emotional confusion and distress.
    Here are a few ideas, Jana, a few of them we already talked about: (1) Practice visualizing a protective barrier or shield around yourself to prevent absorbing negative energies, a guided imagery exercise, (2) Engage in grounding techniques such as deep breathing, focusing on the senses (touch, smell, sight), or using grounding objects (e.g., holding a stone), so to stay centered and present, (3) Continue to prioritize activities that help replenish your energy, such as spending time in nature, (4) Regular aerobic exercise helps release absorbed stress, (5) Continue to journal, (6) Join support groups or communities for highly sensitive people (HSPs), (7) Continue to communicate with your boyfriend about your need for a calm and supportive environment, and encourage open dialogue about how to best support each other during stressful times.
    Thank you for the two previously-awaiting moderation posts! I find the one about EFT, particularly the diagram and how simply it is explained, significantly helpful as I just touched (didn’t even tap) the various points on the face that are shown on the diagram and felt instantly calmer as a result. I intend to practice this more thoroughly later, including when I wake up at night. I didn’t open the links you offered, but will do so later.
    anita
    #439672
    Jana 🪷
    Participant
    Hello Roberta and Anita,
    first of all I would love to thank you for your support and tips. You both are very wise and helpful and I really appriecate your effort to help me (and others on this forum). You are good people.
    And thank you, Lori, for approving my posts.
    I didn’t know that there is a “term” empath. I tried to look up more information about empaths and it seems that it really might be me. I found these points:
    1. You have a lot of empathy.
    I guess I do. It is difficult for me to say if I am oversensitive or empathetic. For example, when I read some people’s stories here, I feel sad and wish I had some miraculous power to relieve them. It’s hard for me to put these feelings into words. I often wonder why some have to suffer and others don’t… When I think about it much and get into my “low moment”, I even blame myself a little for the fact that I have a good life and others don’t… I wanted to be a psychologist but I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to detach from my clients’ problems and that I would take all the suffering home. I was also considering becoming a “nanny” in local orphanage but it was the same situation – I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to deal with their loneliness… I cannot watch violence, horror movies (with blood) because I might have nightmares. I absolutely hate it when someone hurts the weaker ones. And I often feel a bit guilty when I have to “kill” flowers, bushes, trees. I think about it and try to find ways not to cut them (for example when they are in a place where we plan to build something), so we try to replant them if it is possible.
    2. Closeness and intimacy can overwhelm you
    That’s true. I crave closeness and intimacy. It is very important for me. But it is true that in real life I sometimes feel overwhelmed by my partner’s need of closeness and intimacy (especially after long day with other people when my capacity for social contact is already “depleted”). I do not want to push him away. Quite contrary. He is another child who didn’t have his parents’ love in his life… He told me about it many times and that’s why he needs my presence / love a lot. I just need to find some strategies to find the balance between my alone time and the time of closeness/intimacy with him. Thank you for your tips – I’ll work on them and see how it works for us.
    3. You have good intuition.
    I think I do. My intuition saved me many times. But it is true that I tried to supress my intuition in the past, too. I thought that it was my wrong judgement. It is actually sometimes hard to tell the difference between intuition and judgement/illusion. When I have a bad feeling about someone, I start thinking about it rationally and tell myself: “Stop being so judgemental. You shouldn’t think like that.” The truth is that my intuition about people was usually very correct, but I wanted to see the goodness in them so much that I didn’t listen to myself.
    4. You take comfort in nature.
    100% true
    5. You don’t do well in crowded places.
    100% true, sometimes it is even scary for me. I really don’t like weddings, parties, shopping malls, full restaurants, … When I can, I avoid these events/places.
    6. You have hard time not caring.
    viz. point 1
    7. People tend to tell you their problems.
    This is true, too. In my mother tongue people say “Jsi mou vrbou.” (You are my willow) It means that you are somebody who people trust and they can cry on your shoulder. I always felt like a willow.
    8. You have a high sensitivity to sounds, smells, sensations.
    This is also true. I don’t like the sounds which many household appliances make, such as desktop PC, fridge, air conditioning… I very often need to leave my PC because it makes me nervous and I also suffer from information overload on the internet. And I need to turn it off and be totally offline for a few hours. This is also connected to point 5 – I don’t like places where there are a lot of lights, loud music, people talking, people in a hurry, … (now the christmas season is coming and I HATE it because instead of being calm and peaceful, people are going crazy on the roads, in the shops, …)
    9. You need time to recharge.
    100% true.
    10. You don’t like conflicts.
    100% true. I can face them – I have learned that sometimes it is neccessary to do it, but conflicts with people in general are very stressful for me.
    11. You often feel like you don’t fit in
    This is literally my life story. A feeling which I have had in me since I started going to school as a 6-year-old kid.
    12. You tend to isolate.
    Yes, I do. I need to recharge in isolation. But I think that I am getting better and am actively trying to be in touch with my extended family.
    13. You have hard time setting boundaries
    Yes, sometimes I am confused what I should do… I feel guilty when I set boundaries.
    14. You see the world in unique ways.
    I think so, too. I love that I can see, feel, hear the beautiful things around me. I noticed many times that some people just see a tree, nothing else… but I can see what the tree might have experienced during the many years it has been standing in that place.
    15. You sometimes find it tough to cope with sensory and emotional overload.
    Yes. viz. points 1 and 8.

    Once again, thank you for your tips. I’ll put them into practice and see how they work for me (us, with my partner). I have three busy days ahead of me, so I’ll be able to put them to the test. : -)

    Take care! And if you have any questions about EFT, feel free to ask.

    (written on Nov 25, at 14:40)

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    #439678
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation and kind words!

    I didn’t know that there was a ‘term’ empath… it seems like it really might be me“- (Online): “Empaths often experience the emotions of others as if they were their own. Due to their ability to absorb emotions, empaths can sometimes feel overwhelmed and drained by intense emotional experiences, both their own and others’. They may need time alone to recharge and regain their emotional equilibrium… Empaths might find it challenging to distinguish between their own emotions and those they absorb from others. This can lead to confusion and difficulty understanding their true feelings”- this reads as if it was written specifically about you!

    It is difficult for me to say if I am oversensitive or empathetic“-I think that you are both: oversensitive (having a heightened responses to stimuli), aka a Highly Sensitive person (HSP) and an Empath. The two terms are related but are not identical.

    I don’t like the sounds that may household appliances make… I don’t like places where there are a lot of lights, loud music, people talking…“- what you described here is the experience of an HSP. Your distress in environments with excessive sensory stimuli, such as bright lights, loud sounds, and bustling crowds are pretty much in the definition of HSPs.

    Online advice for HSPs: 1.Use soundproofing techniques (ex., thick carpeting and rugs, foam seals and door panels) or noise-canceling headphones to reduce the impact of noise from neighbors/ street and household noises in particular. 2. Designate a quiet, calm space in your home where you can retreat and recharge when feeling overwhelmed. 3. Schedule regular breaks from technology and the internet to prevent information overload. 4. When possible, avoid crowded and noisy environments. Plan shopping trips during quieter times. 5. Use soft lighting at home and avoid bright, harsh lights.

    You responded to the online “You often feel like you don’t fit in” (in regard to empaths) with: “This is laterally my life story. A feeling which I have had in me since I started going to school as a 6 years old“- the feeling of not fitting in is common among Highly Sensitive Persons. Reasons: HSPs experience emotions and process information and experiences, more deeply and intensely than others, leading to a sense of being out of sync with the majority of people around. HSPs can easily feel overwhelmed in environments with lots of stimuli (like loud noises, bright lights, or large crowds), furthering the feeling of being different/ not fitting in.

    Personally, I am definitely an HSP. In my case, childhood abuse/ repeated trauma caused me to become hyper-aware (oversensitive) to everything: to sounds, lights, smells, the feeling of clothes on me, the feeling of heat and humidity, the feelings inside my body.. all sensory stimuli within and without. I was highly attuned to my mother’s emotional states, all as a survival mechanism which extended into adulthood. (Fortunately, I am less sensitive to loud noises and the feeling of heat and humidity now than I was ten years ago, partly because I live in a quiet place that is less hot and humid than in places I lived before).

    I read online: “The combination of genetic predisposition and environmental factors, such as trauma, can shape a child’s sensitivity, making them more attuned to their surroundings and emotions”.

    Till next time, take care, Jana!

    anita

    #439734
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    – Return to innocence –

    I was supposed to be born in May. When my mom was pregnant with me, I was pronounced dead and she had to undergo C-section…
    What a surprise! I was alive!
    So, I was born … a little bit involuntarily … on March 6.
    This affected my mom a lot, maybe more than me… and she always thought I was so small and delicate and quiet because I was premature. She always saw my introversion and high sensitivity as a result of my premature birth.
    I don’t know where the truth is… But what I believe today is that I was like this before I was born. The fact that I’m sensitive and introverted isn’t the result of something traumatic like my premature birth… it’s just my genes, nature, karma, … Who knows. What is important to me today is that it is not something negative, bad, unwanted… something that has to be fixed… as it has been presented to me all my life.

    My mom sometimes tells me, as a joke: “You are typical Pisces! What would you be like if you were a Taurus?” (March = Pisces, May = Taurus)
    The same. I would be the same.
    Yesterday we were in a car I heard this song:
    Don’t be afraid to be weak<br aria-hidden=”true” />Don’t be too proud to be strong<br aria-hidden=”true” />Just look into your heart my friend<br aria-hidden=”true” />That will be the return to yourself<br aria-hidden=”true” />The return to innocence
    I am on my way to my real self. My introversion and sensitivity is something I need to return to… to return to myself, to my innocence.
    And I wanted to thank you because I have realized so much here on this forum. I felt so lost this year and now I am very happy I am going back to myself thanks to you.

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    #439745
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    Your journey of self-discovery is truly inspiring. It’s amazing how you’ve come to understand that your sensitivity and introversion are not weaknesses or something to be fixed, but integral parts of your identity. The way you framed your personality traits as something that predate your birth, tied to your genes, nature, or even karma shows a deep level of acceptance, which is so important for personal growth.

    The song lyrics you shared resonate deeply with your journey. Returning to oneself and embracing one’s true nature is a powerful message.

    Return to innocence is a powerful message to me: It’s what my personal story of getting emotionally sick and then healing is about: starting Innocent (being an innocent young child)===> feeling pervasively guilty/bad ===> reconnecting with my innocent (not-guilty) core.

    It’s wonderful that you’ve found clarity and support here, and I’m glad to read that you’re feeling more connected to your real self.

    “This affected my mom a lot, maybe more than me… and she always thought I was so small and delicate and quiet because I was premature”- a mother’s expressed attitude and perceptions of her child get internalized by the child, and become part of the child’s self-identity and behavior. Also, a mother who sees her child as fragile and delicate might adopt overly protective behaviors. This can limit the child’s exposure to normal challenges and stressors, reinforcing sensitivity and introversion.

    The emotional climate created by a mother’s attitude can significantly impact a child’s development. If the mother is anxious, overprotective, or consistently worried about her daughter’s (or son’s) fragility, the daughter may become more sensitive to her environment and more aware of emotional cues.

    Interestingly, I was born small and delicate myself. My mother had an eating disorder that caused her to be significantly underweight all through her pregnancy with me, leading to a breech birth and me being significantly smaller than all of my peers throughout middle school. She used to tell me about my unusual birth being traumatic to her. She also told me that every time I fell, or coughed or whatever, she’d rush me to the medica clinic, so often that she was told there to stop showing up with me “for every little thing”. I am sure that the young me internalized her attitude and perception of me (only a few minutes ago, I felt pain in my knee and worried that that pain means that I will not be able to walk anymore)!

    “What is important to me today is that it is not something negative, bad, unwanted… something that has to be fixed… as it has been presented to me all my life“- you are reframing your traits from being seen as negative to recognizing them as positive aspects of your identity. This shift is crucial for personal growth and self-esteem.

    Your post is a heartfelt reflection on your journey from feeling misunderstood and needing to be “fixed” to embracing your true self. It illustrates the transformative power of self-acceptance.

    Thank you for sharing your story and insights. Keep embracing your true self, and know that your sensitivity and introversion are strengths that make you who you are.

    anita
    #439771
    Helcat
    Participant

    Hi Jana

    Thank you for sharing the resources about EFT! I’m definitely going to dig into that. 😊

    Your sense of smell is fascinating to me as someone with a very bad sense of smell. I remember dating someone with a good sense of smell and I accidentally picked up their flatmates hoodie because it was the same as mine. My ex could tell that his flatmate was wearing the wrong hoodie because it smelled of me. I remember reading about super smellers and super tasters (people with extraordinary sensory abilities) after that experience. You sound like you have this ability too!

    Regarding absorbing other people’s emotions. I believe that everyone has the inherent ability to do that. As babies it is relied upon heavily. My son can tell when I’m upset when he’s not even looking at me and haven’t said anything.

    People learn to not rely on this skill and turn their attention to other things. Like you, I struggled with it myself in the past absorbing other people’s feelings. I learned to ground in myself more. Pay more attention to the way that I feel and care less about paying attention to someone else’s emotional state. There are more practical ways to help.

    Instead of focusing on how he feels try focusing on the communication and ask him what he needs? People are able to communicate what they need quite well and that will be as helpful to him. Showing empathy by communicating that you understand how he feels and validating it is often helpful too. Of course, if you feel unsettled when he seems upset, (sometimes I worry that my partner is upset at me in situations like this) take care of yourself too! What do you need in that situation?

    I can understand your mother’s concerns. Being premature can affect development. But it doesn’t truly matter because you are perfect the way you are. Mothers often blame themselves for things like this though. I think that she just wishes that you had an easier life. Not that you would be a different person. She just doesn’t like to see you suffer and blames herself. Imagining this situation for her is like imagining a life for you with no difficulties. A life where she doesn’t have to feel guilty anymore about not being able to bring you to term and feeling responsible for your health. It also removes stress for her about any potential concerns about your upbringing. She is both blaming herself and trying not to blame herself and trying to blame you in the confusion of trying to reassure herself. The long and the short of it is that she is not as self aware and understanding as you are. Though I’m sure she tries her best. I can tell how much you both love each other.

    The truth is that we all have difficulties. Every single one of us.

    You are truly an incredible person Jana! It was obvious from the first message you wrote. You have put a lot of effort into growing as a person and healing yourself. ❤️

    Love, peace and best wishes! ❤️🙏

    #439783
    Jana 🪷
    Participant

    Today I contacted an online addiction counselling center. I wanted to ask them if there was a way to persuade my older brother to start his treatment. He is an alcoholic. He got into a fight with his girlfriend (again) and has bruises on his face. He was depressed at work.

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