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  • #271773

    anita
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    Dear Ananya:

    I was glad to be able to read your post which was corrected, the typing-on-top of typing having  been removed.

    Here is a key sentence in what you shared there that brings me to a better understanding: “a few years ago we actually went through quite an abusive conversation- he really lit into us about how little we do”-

    He is angry with his parents, with you and your husband, but not because you didn’t take a train or a plane up north to his home last Christmas,  but because when he was  a  child, he was somehow neglected. It doesn’t mean that he wasn’t fed and sheltered. Most likely he was emotionally somehow neglected, felt that you didn’t attend to  him. It is the same hurt and anger from childhood that gets re-activated three or  four decades later.

    What do you think?

    anita

    • This reply was modified 3 weeks ago by  anita.
    #271791

    Ananya
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    Hi Anita, I think  I am lost in the posts.I was told there had to be a link.I don’t see any on any of the latest posts so have no idea if you are receiving my responses to yours.

    Ananya

    #271797

    Ananya
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    I went way back to some other discussions from you and found a link to click on.

    The last thing Iwrote to you was that I had received a text from son yesterday.I assume he was at airport waiting for trip to mine.He said thanks to my previous message wishing him safe travels and said he had left gifts with his ex when returning the girls.I have texted back and said I hope he arrived safely.I don’t what else to say.Should I acknowledge his disappointment over Xmas.I have not referred to that area of emotion at all.I just want my sadness and guilt to end.Thank you.Ananya

    #271799

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Ananya:

    You mean that you attached links?

    Did you notice my recent post to you, the one from a bit more than an hour ago? It is based on the posts I did read from you. You can look at page 1 of your thread and the current page, page 2. These are the posts available to me. Your fifth post was corrected and I was able to understand it well this morning.

    anita

    #271885

    Ananya
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    I am not sure if you have received any of my posts since and including my last one Dec. 31 at 9:19 am. It was lengthy and since then it appears I was not clicking on the link to post. I think I did for that as it is showing up in the threads. Anyway just to let you know it is there.

    Many thanks

    Ananya

    #271889

    anita
    Participant

    Dear Anyana:

    I read all of your 7 posts on page 1, and the 3 posts on this page,  page 2. I read a long post by you dated 12/31 at 9:19 am on page 1. I based my reply to you earlier today (Jan 1, 4:53 am, first one  on page 2) on your Dec 31, 9:19 am post.

    anita

    #271977

    Ananya
    Participant

    Hello Anita

    I can see the screen shot with link.I have used the link and can see all the conversations as I scroll through the threads.

    The last one I wrote you was long one Dec 31 at 9:19am.I have not received any replies since then other than the one you just sent with screen shot.

    #271999

    anita
    Participant

    Dear  Ananya:

    I will copy and paste most of the reply I submitted to you following reading your Dec 31 post.  Here it is:

    Dear Ananya:

    Here is a key sentence in what you shared there that brings me to a better understanding: “a few years ago we actually went through quite an abusive conversation- he really lit into us about how little we do”-

    He is angry with his parents, with you and your husband, but not because you didn’t take a train or a plane up north to his home last Christmas,  but because when he was  a  child, he was somehow neglected. It doesn’t mean that he wasn’t fed and sheltered. Most likely he was emotionally somehow neglected, felt that you didn’t attend to  him. It is the same hurt and anger from childhood that gets re-activated three or  four decades later.

    What do you think?

    anita

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