August 19, 2017 at 6:16 pm #164710
I’m seeking an advice; I have an issue how to deal with what people think about me … I get sad, upset for days and sometimes I became depressed when I knew that people are saying bad things behind my back. I discovered recently that people from my last job (X colleagues) are social undermining me and saying bad things about me in front of everybody . like ( she is doing work the wrong way etc…
I’m not sure if this happening only with me , and I don’t know why people would talk or hurt others like this . knowing that I’m very nice person and I never do the gossiping . I wish if I can find a way stop me to worry and get anxious due this kind of others attitude towards me .August 19, 2017 at 6:37 pm #164746
Haters are usually haters because they are the ones with the problem (not you).
A decent normal person would not go saying negative harmful stuff about someone even if they didn’t particularly like them.
There’s is a level of tolerence and courtesy that should have come with human evolution.
if you aren’t hurting anyone yourself then you don’t have much to apologise for.
another thing to remember is people who make a big deal about small trivial things (often in the workplace) are normally once again the people who have no greatness in thier life and that’s why they feel the need to reprimand others over nearly irrelevant things.
it is a big world out there so don’t let the opinions of some haters make you sad. Honestly thier opinion is irrelevant.
A lot of great people who are really talented and have happy lives still have plenty of haters, that’s the world we live in. Don’t think there’s is something wrong with you because of it. Just push thier opinion to the side and try and enjoy the things you like in life, whatever that might be. If you keep thier opinions to the side for long enough you will eventually forget, and they will be the same pathetic people hating on someone else for something minor because they are losers.August 19, 2017 at 8:17 pm #164786
There are people who are really good at criticizing others without reflecting on their own personalities. I’ve been through some similar events myself, and I would wonder what I’d done wrong towards that particular person for them to make comments about me like that. And I’ve learnt that there are just some people who dislike you, regardless. They have their own reasons, I guess, but it won’t help overanalyzing the ‘why’ (although some of us do). Spend time with the people who motivate you, the people who matter. Steer clear from those negative people.
A quote I like is ‘Live in such a way that if anyone spoke bad of you, no one would believe it’.
HAugust 21, 2017 at 7:49 am #164944
Something we all need to remember
The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral,
begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy.
Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it.
Through violence you may murder the liar,
but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth.
Through violence you may murder the hater,
but you do not murder hate.
In fact, violence merely increases hate.
So it goes.
Returning violence for violence multiplies violence,
adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness:
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.</span>
August 21, 2017 at 6:18 pm #165020
- This reply was modified 4 months, 3 weeks ago by Peter.
Thank you all for your valuable advices I really appreciate your time !January 3, 2018 at 8:00 am #184843
Don’t mind them! I know it’s easy to say and I also care what people think or say about me (who doesn’t), but then I realize that it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t even like these people, so why I care about their opinion.
I do care about my close friends opinions. Someone who knows me and understands me. If they say I’m becoming as asshole or I’m doing something wrong then I’d definitelly look into it and try to fix it. Otherwise… screw haters! It should be their problem, not yours!
Good luck and stay positive!
Here’s something you should watch. It takes about 7 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqMJKhSLY60