February 16, 2021 at 9:30 am #374742
Thank you. “It feels like all at once… It does feel like a lot of change at once but it is one I have been craving”- and you are going about this big change logically and sensibly, I am impressed. You are doing well, Zeeza!
anitaFebruary 16, 2021 at 3:33 pm #374754
I have the best news I went to the place in person today and placed a holding deposit on it. This is the apartment that is 2 months free. When I walked in the neighborhood people said hello to me. The building is old and looks like a cool vintage hotel. The floors are new hardwood in the place. The other two I looked at were slightly bigger with more sunlight but were more expensive and had a much smaller kitchen. But I don’t mind not having big windows because I like to turn on colored lights at night. It would be really cool to get a stars light so the ceiling could look like a milkyway. It is a 15 month lease so I am glad this priced is locked in. I am filling out the application today. And I think I have a cosigner. I am a little hesitant, because it is my boyfriend. He is very kind and I do hope to build a longterm healthy relationship. But I am wondering if asking a family member would be more appropriate. Although he will be over often, most apartments require if guests stay longer than a weekish in a month then they should be on the lease. I will have to be very smart with how I use this space but I think simple things like having my tv on a dresser. Or cool cat tree that has an enclosed like structure of a cat box.
I think a smaller place will help me focus on keeping up with chores. There won’t be a dishwasher or a washing machine/dryer.
The parking is street parking but I seemed to have an easy time finding a spot during the day. I am not sure how it will look at night but the lady said at most she has to park 2 blocks away. I figure since I haven’t been walking casper anymore maybe this would help me get a walk into me day.
I haven’t applied for that job yet. I am still a bit on the fence to change that as well. But I could always apply and see what happens. Living so close to work seems like such a luxury. And perhaps I could help with my current job by working remotely sometimes in the morning. So I am not leaving them completely hanging. A coworker put in his two weeks notice today. So it seems like we are short staffed by 4/5 people.
I have a whole month to slowly move! This is the first time I haven’t had to move in a short 2 day time period. Also I can skip pet rent if I get a letter from my therapist saying harry is my emotional support animal. and when Covid is less intense there is a courtyard we can use to grow a community garden.
I feel so excited and happy but I worry it is mania so I am trying to slow down my speech and take deep breaths but my mind is racing.February 16, 2021 at 4:56 pm #374755
I think it’s fine your boyfriend is your co-signer as long as you understand that the place is yours, not his; for as long as you know that he has no legal or ethical rights to your apartment.
Regarding having a family member co-sign… you mean your aunt or a cousin? It has to be a family member who is (1) qualified to co-sign and (2) is a decent person and has been good with you for a long time.
Getting Harry the status of emotional support animal and not pay the pet-rent is an excellent idea, after all Harry has been providing you with emotional support for quite some time.
Feeling “so excited” does not equal mania.. just so excited. I am excited for you!
February 18, 2021 at 8:10 am #374798
- This reply was modified 2 weeks, 4 days ago by anita.
yesterday I spent some time trying to figure out the logistics of living in the place. What I could bring and what I would leave. The place seems so small that I decided only 3 big pieces of furniture can be in there. I tried my best to figure out the best lay out. And I looked at little tiny portable washing machines that you can use camping or in a small place. I think during COVID it feels safer to have your own washer.
I applied for that apartment just by myself but it did start a conversation with my boyfriend where if we were to live together what would it look like. He is a little allergic to Harry the cat. He brought over this fancy vacuum that just vacuums all on its own. So he was saying it would be easier to have a couple days where he could go where there is no cat hair.
I am worried about the new location of the place. It is relatively safer but with parking being off street it may cause me to walk longer at night . At least with where I live now I have a parking lot to roam instead. I am having second guesses now. Although the new place does save me money it also makes some aspects a struggle. Staying in this place now doesn’t seem so bad like I understand what extra I am paying for. Consistent parking, being able to wash my own things, more space, and a dishwasher. The other place has the most tiniest bathroom I have ever seen which is okay with me but it doesn’t have an fan to help keep the humidity clear.
I was thinking that if I don’t move I can still cleanse. Maybe make my apartment more studio style. I could move my bed into the living room and set up an art room in my bedroom. So my apartment is like a studio in the living room an an art studio in the bedroom.
another aspect why I thought it might not be good to move is I already have a therapist doctor and pharmacy all on the same block.
it is so odd I spent to much time and energy planning this out to now having a lot of doubts. It feels like such an important decision. And I guess my logic is the money I save to move into this smaller space might be spent trying to do laundry find parking or any hiccups that might happen to my car like a window smash or something.
I had become so focused on moving that I didn’t take care of my body that well which is funny since my body is my first home. I think it just feels weird to build home without Casper. Another person put in there two weeks at work. I didn’t apply for that newer job and by the time I saw the listing and now over a hundred applicants applied.
my focus is to grow stability and have more time to do what I love and take care. If I could find a savvy friendly way to make money off of art I would be so happy to start my own little business. It is something I haven’t tried yet and have been wishing to. I guess my idea is if I can get that business started and then work less days at my current job I could have stability with that perhaps.
now I hope with my next time off I do a deep clean and remove stuff and make art. Most of my weekend went to trying to make this major decision. I haven’t signed a new Lease yet. So it is still a possibility.February 18, 2021 at 10:17 am #374809
If you are able to pay the rent for your current apartment, and if moving will not save you significant money then there is no reason to move.
Regarding your safety concern: having to park your car on the street at night and walking from your car to the apartment building: there is probably a way for you to check if there have been any robberies or attacks on women at night, in the area you are considering moving to- I bet you can get that information from the local police. This information will help you to make a wise decision!
February 18, 2021 at 4:21 pm #374822
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these are wise points! So I applied for the new place and my current place. Current place rejected me said my income is borderline enough. The new place accepted me today! And if I get a letter from my therapist I don’t need a pet deposit for Harry.
Casper’s ashes just arrived to the vet so I can pick him up soon as I am not at work.February 18, 2021 at 4:29 pm #374823
As for safety I asked a local friend I haven’t seen in awhile and a coworker who lives nearby and they said it is relatively safe. The leasing office lady said she hasn’t had any reports of car break ins in our neighborhood.February 18, 2021 at 4:49 pm #374824
Then it seems like you are moving, exciting, I say! Precious Casper’s ashes arrived to the vets- what are your plans in regard to his ashes?
anitaFebruary 19, 2021 at 12:35 am #374844
Yes that seems to be my plan moving forward. My boyfriend became very curious to look at places as well. I think he is uncomfortable with the lack of amenities and smaller space, and we talked about what it might be like to live together. We do spend quite a bit of time together. Anyways he said he wanted to see if there are better deals and that he could help with it. He also offered to help me keep the current place. But I think I really like the location of this place and the potential to save money. It is basically in the heart of Seattle which is why I was concerned about parking. The leasing lady said two blocks was the farthest she ever had to park. Who knows maybe I won’t need a car but it feels safer to have one. And I like having the ability to visit friends that live out of of town. Sometimes you can pay monthly for a designated spot. I found one ad for 100 a month in the neighborhood. That is the cheapest rate I could find and I am not sure how much of a walking distance it would be. If I paid for a parking spot like that I would still save about 300 a month.
I applied for two of those customer service jobs tonight that is only 10/15 minutes drive away from the new place. One I would really love to have and the other I applied to test it out. I am still becoming very angry at work. It somewhat feels like having the same day repeated. I keep pausing to say I am grateful I have a job and I am grateful I am not homeless. Whenever I feel a lot of anger I try to focus on what I am grateful for instead. Because I know the hours and work load isn’t healthy so I don’t need to keep reminding myself this.February 19, 2021 at 12:38 am #374845
I hope to keep Casper’s Ashes on his shrine. I haven’t printed out pictures yet, but I have his paw print and his sweaters all together. I am not certain what I will do though? I have never had ashes of a loved one before. I really do miss him and I think that is why I am motivated to change in this existential crisis of trying to figure out who I am without my Casper. And how I can best take care of the foundation of my life.February 19, 2021 at 1:59 am #374847
for some reason I can’t sleep but I got the hair dye stain off of my washing machine. It felt like a victory I thought I’d never have lol. I definitely think there are ways for me to make a small place comfy. Like the little portable washing machine is very easy to use and isn’t too expensive. But the expenses of trying to clean up my place such as I heard replacing drip pans is good to do? Even to mail some paintings I can’t take with me to friends as gifts costs money. I am young but I have my first wrinkle on my forehead haha. It looks like from lifting my eye brows too much out of concern perhaps. Don’t know why but I have this strong fear I will oee money to this apartment and never be able to pay it off. Nothing is damaged besides from hanging stuff up on the wall and needing to shampoo the carpets to get out stains. The vinyl of my floor started to fall apart but I reported that for them to fix and it is postponed until COVID is better. I also need to scrub my back deck from when I had grass sod out there for Casper. It looks like mud got on the rails from rain. It will feel good to get it all clean just trying to convince myself it is all possible. One step at a time and I’ll try to sleep. I hope you have a great day AntiaFebruary 19, 2021 at 7:24 am #374855
Regarding getting back your security deposit, according to www. seattle. gov/ return of your security deposit, “When you move out, you must return the rental unit to the same condition you rented it except for ‘reasonable wear and tear.’ Reasonable wear and tear naturally occurs over time. Examples are paint fading, scuff marks on linoleum, wear patterns on carpet, etc.
“Damage, on the other hand, generally occurs more as a result of negligence or abuse. Examples are holes in the wall, broken windows, or burn marks.
“Your landlord must use the checklist you both signed at the time you moved in to determine if you are responsible for damage to the unit.. It’s always a good idea to take pictures of the unit to document the condition you returned it in, including cleanliness”- there is more information on that site.
Good thing that you applied to the two customer service jobs and in so doing you are proactively working on a solution to the unhealthy “hours and work load” in your current job and the anger you feel as a result.
In regard to your boyfriend offering to help with your rent in the current place or in a new place- he should help with the rent if he spends a whole lot of time in your place. Thinking long-term, better you live in a place that you can afford alone in case the relationship doesn’t work out.
How cute Casper’s paw prints must be. I know you miss him. I hope you got some sleep last night and that you function best you can, “One step at a time”, like you wrote.
anitaFebruary 19, 2021 at 9:28 am #374890
thank you for your kind and wise words. I ordered the portable washing machine and should get here in the beginning of the month. Just in time for my last month in the old place. It was only a hundred dollar investment. I watched tutorials on how to use it and I got it since all I need to do is fill it up with water and not hook it up to any plumbing. It can fit right in my stand up shower when I drain it too. Other college students have used if and says it works great.
I will schedule a walk out appt so I won’t have any surprises on what they would try to charge me for. I have lived here for a couple years so hopefully it will be more lenient because I have had more time for wear and tear. I also ordered a really cheap corner book case to help optimize space.
yes Anita being independent is so important because you never know what could happen. Honestly that’s how I got stuck in this place originally I was with someone in college. We broke up and it was so hard to afford to move. I would resign the lease thinking My grandma was a co-signer. But apparently way back it wasn’t my gram but his mom so she asked me to remove her. It was a very awkward conversation but I did pay monthly for his internet on a tablet gift during that time. I didn’t speak with her directly but my ex. I feel very guilty for this and I am trying to fix it and I am thinking of emailing her to let her know the plan. She didn’t know she was on the lease either for the longest time. Lo mg story short I won’t roommate with others unless I know I can afford the whole place on my own. And I don’t want co-signers ever. . The apartment complex couldn’t remove her for her sake either so I am just glad to be done and wish I fixed it sooner. I feel like a terrible person for this.
caspers paw print is sooooo tiny. I have a lot of dog stuff I don’t want to let go but I don’t need to take with me. Like a doggie door for a sliding glass door.February 19, 2021 at 10:01 am #374896
You are welcome. I didn’t know there was such a thing as a portable washing machine, and one that doesn’t require plumbing until you told me. I googled and came across an image of a Zeny mini twin tub portable compact washing machine that costs almost $110, I imagine this is something similar to what you ordered.
I didn’t understand much about your ex boyfriend’s mother being on the lease etc., but it being in the past, I hope you let it go and keep the lesson you learned, as you stated it: “I won’t roommate with others unless I know I can afford the whole place on my own”.
anitaFebruary 19, 2021 at 12:34 pm #374915
yes that is my exact purchase! And yes The lease confused me too and will feel good to close that chapter. I have a phone interview on Monday for the job I want! I am excited! I just have to clock out for a longer lunch perhaps. It is the same day I am getting a performance review ironically. I don’t know what to tell work I have an important phone call so I need an hour lunch on Monday? I don’t want to lie and call it a doctors appointment.
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