I am not sensitive to rejection. I have been taking her NO all these days. Last year it was different they used to accompany us everywhere to the park, movies or trips to other states. This year its been different it started since July they have been saying NO a lot lately. I am ok with it because i dont expect people to be with us all time. I have even stopped asking her but my husband still keeps asking them when we go out. Its hard for me to accept how she has changed lately stopped  messaging me or not coming out with us. I want to move on but i am stuck. Another incident happened this weekend. Her husband and my husband has a mutual friend lets call him C. Cs wife planned a surprise birthday party for him only for men. I told my husband i will take care of my kid. But insisted on taking our kid to the party as its just going to be cake cutting thing. Then he asked my friends husband if he is taking the kid to the party. He said YES. I was okay with that as my kid will company at the party.But my friend and husband later had a discussion my friend insisted her husband not to take their kid to the party. As usual she dropped the plan in the last moment. They didnt even tell us before. So my husband got my kid ready and they sat in the car to go the party. Thats when he (my friends husband) told my husband that he is not brining the little one to the party. I was angry at that time but i just let it go. My husband went to the party and he called me saying take the kid home as there are no kids  here and its going to get late. I dont know why i felt so angry at that moment if they would have told us earlier i wouldn’t have sent my kiddo. So my husband has to come back and drop the kid at home. I went outside so i was not at home at that time so he dropped my little one at my friends house. I was so angry with her  that i returned home immediately. I went to her home and just grabbed my kid and didnt even talk to her. She knew i was angry with her. She later texted me asking what happened. I told her i was angry with as this is happening for the third time. I remember last year we were planning to go outside and they said YES. We got ready and we were waiting for them. Then i went to her home to ask them if they are ready. She told then as they are not coming as her kid didnt take shower. I felt like that was silly. My little one expected her friend would accompany her. She cried uncontrollably on that day.  I didnt say anything to her on that day. I just moved on. Then later on the dinner thing happened. Then this  party. I told her saying NO in the last moment is effecting us. It has happened thrice. I couldnt take it this time. She started giving her own reasons. She started complaining instead of understanding what i went through. She didnt even apologize.  I apologized to her first as i was angry with her. Then she apologized to me. Instead of accepting her own mistake. She said our plans just clashed. I know she didnt do it intentionally but she does not understand how its effecting my kid. My husband tells me that i am thinking too much. I just cant trust her anymore. Its emotionally draining me. I just hate it.

Yeah you are right. She told me the same thing that her husband said YES without discussing with her and she didnt like sending her kid to the mens party. She took her little one out and she was too tired to attend the party.

May be it wasnt unintentional. Sometimes i noticed that her husband says yes without asking her. I dont know i just felt bad my daughter felt alone at the party and husband has to come back home to drop her. I never reacted this way with her before.