January 13, 2020 at 7:40 am #333101
First off, I know most people won’t believe me. Maybe nobody will. But i’ve Been holding on to this secret for nearly 16 years. A little over half my life. I can’t handle it much longer. I’ve tried my best to rule out delusion. I’ve measured the parts of my body that change before and after it happens. I know I can never be sure, though. So please, I accept that possibility, so just hear me out.
Important thing to note is that I don’t hurt people, one of many things that differ from the pop culture/folklore depictions of werewolves. My behaviour doesn’t change much when I turn, which happens on the full moon, and may happen a few nights before or after. I can hold it back it isn’t a full moon and if I haven’t already been holding it back for a few nights, but it still affects me a lot. My heightened senses, even in human form, remind me constantly of my abnormality, and I feel so alone. I’ve never met anyone like me. Not even anyone close. As such, i’ve Never told a soul.
Lately, i’ve Been thinking of telling a close friend of mine. It’s not so much that I want to tell him, it’s just that I can’t take the secrecy alone anymore. I’m just terrified that he won’t believe me, or won’t want to Be my friend anymore. I could just show him, but I figure that would just freak him out, send him running before I have a chance to explain. If he doesn’t believe me, what if he calls a doctor, fearing for my mental health, and gets me sectioned? I saw a theory once that the transformation is a result of getting caught between this dimension and a dimension where you’re an animal. If that’s a possibility, what if only I can perceive this change? Then i’ll Look doubly insane. Can you get sectioned even if you don’t pose a threat to anyone? I dunno.
I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Telling someone is risky, I know that. I don’t even know how I would begin to explain all of this. Even I don’t even know how it works exactly, I have theories, but nothing concrete. I was never bitten and i’M pretty sure my family are all normal.
So yeah, that’s my truth. Think of it what you may, but please, even if you think i’m Crazy, if you have any advice on telling someone a secret you’re not sure they’ll believe, I could really use some help right now.January 13, 2020 at 8:00 am #333107
You wrote that you are afraid that if you tell a friend this secret, he’ll get you to be involuntarily committed to a mental institution: “what if he calls a doctor, fearing for my mental health, and he gets me sectioned?.. Can you get sectioned even if you don’t pose a thread to anyone?”
– I don’t think you can get sectioned, or involuntarily institutionalized just because you believe that you are a werewolf, at least it being so in the USA. But I don’t know where you live and there may be complications that may lead to you being committed:
Let’s say you tell a friend that you are a werewolf and that friend tells someone else, and that someone else calls a mental hospital and claims that you said that you are not just a werewolf but a violent werewolf. So this could be a problem.
What I would do if I was you, and if you live in a developed country, is to see a psychotherapist. In the first session, ask the therapist: under what circumstances the therapist will call an institution so to get you involuntarily committed. You can ask for written/ official material that answers your question. If the therapist’s answer is comforting enough, take it from there.
What do you think?
anitaJanuary 13, 2020 at 8:08 am #333109
I do have a therapist, but wouldn’t asking a question like that seem suspicious? Like, if I found out that she would have me committed, so I don’t tell her, wouldn’t she then have reason to sound the alarm anyways?January 13, 2020 at 8:23 am #333113NekoshemaParticipant
Well, I’m Pagan, so I know how it can feel sometimes telling people about the supernatural and they give you this look, or they say “I like Harry Potter too but…” I have met otherkin in my time, but they don’t claim to physically transform [and for that reason, I will take your claims with a grain of salt since I don’t believe in physical transformation, though I do believe in spiritual, astral and mental transformations as well as having an animal spirit instead of a human one]
Regarding telling your friend, reflect on your friendship. Do you feel safe around them? Do you feel this is a step too far? If I had to tell my friends a secret of such magnitude, I know a few I could tell, it would be uncomfortable, and I doubt if they would completely believe me [they might ask to see it] but I would feel safe telling them because I can trust them to keep my secret.
As for the werewolf thing, have you spoken to your therapist about this? If you are of no threat to yourself and others, I don’t think your therapist can commit you [I use to be friends/coworkers with someone who use to attempt suicide nearly once a week and they were never committed. They would say they didn’t want to go to the hospital, and would be sent on their way] So I think unless you’re breaking the law or someone is in harm, you’re fine. You can always ask your therapist about the legal standpoint and where the line is before divulging the information.
Another option is to seek a native shaman or other spiritual teacher as some native cultures believed you could physically shapeshift into an animal when you reached a specific level of enlightenment. Research shamans and medicine men in your area to see if any would be willing to speak with you and if they have any knowledge/wisdom/insight into your dilemma.January 13, 2020 at 8:41 am #333119
“wouldn’t asking a question like that seem suspicious?”- psychotherapists, like the police, cannot legally act because of suspicion alone. So if you ask your therapist for her rules and regulations regarding contacting an outside agency such as a mental institution or the police, she should give you that simple information. A competent therapist will not interrogate you as to why you asked this question.
You can ask the therapist: in what circumstances will you as a therapist call an outside agency, like a mental institution of the police, and involve that agency in my life?
She should give you that information and direct you to where you can read this information yourself. If she asks you why you are asking, don’t answer her (you don’t have to answer). Instead read the source of information she gave you and take it from there.
If you do as I suggested, you are welcome to let me know of your therapist’s answer and I will give you my input. (Also, I wonder if there is a reliable googable source of information that can answer your question)
anitaJanuary 13, 2020 at 9:51 am #333153
Nekoshima: how would I go about finding local spiritual teachers?
Anita: I may try. Honestly the thought still terrifies me. Google’s kind of a mess for these things, either in the case of mental health law or werewolf stuff. In the former, it’s all very general. I struggle to find anywhere to find out specifically, in my situation, if i’d Be sectioned. In the latter, it’s hard to sort what has roots in fact and what’s pure fiction.January 13, 2020 at 11:17 am #333165
Here is an idea: make an appointment with an attorney, someone who practices law in the area of committing people involuntarily to mental institutions, an attorney in your location who is an expert on this very issue. The attorney may show you the law on the matter as well, in addition to the verbal consultation.
anitaJanuary 13, 2020 at 11:41 am #333191
So how much does it cost generally to ask such a question to an attorney? I’ve never really needed one before.January 13, 2020 at 11:47 am #333193
I don’t know. But you can find out. If you live in the US, google the attorney bar association in your state. Call the phone number provided and ask for a list of attorney in your area that deal with civil issues, such as involuntary committal of people to mental institutions. Then call any of these attorneys and ask for the price of a legal consultation.
On the website home page, there may be an email address where you can ask your question, or a phone number to call. Maybe, just maybe the answer to your questions are given free right there on the bar association website.
January 13, 2020 at 11:54 am #333201
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* didn’t reflect under TopicsJanuary 13, 2020 at 4:04 pm #333259tartarugaParticipant
She would obligated to keep that information confidential. Especially if you don’t pose a threat to anyone else. I would bring the topic up to her and if I were you, I wouldn’t be afraid. She’s there to help.January 14, 2020 at 8:58 am #333389tartarugaParticipant
I think it might also be worth it to ask your therapist for a referral to someone who specializes in clinical lycanthropy.