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  • #433631
    SadSoul
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    Dear SadSoul: “I asked for help moving a wardrobe and got told no“- I would have said YES!

    😢🧡😢😢😢😢

    How do I have a friend who’s there for more than the food?“- I would be such a friend irl! As much as I love my favorite kinds of food (extra-cheese pizza, extra- and I mean ALL cheese, melted), I’d turn my back on the cheese and attend to SadSoul!

    Oh girl. No one has ever wanted to be my friend in such a simple uncomplicated way. I love cheese and I love pizza so I think we’d best find somewhere that does an excellent version of this deliciousness. I’ll make mulled wine to drink with it and light my little fire pit so we can sit outside and enjoy the evening. 

    Telling myself we had a nice evening and feeling ungrateful and horrible because the only nice thing for me was their pleasure in the nice food, the rest was just me alone creating that half an hour of pleasure for them”– pleasure is in getting to know SadSoul, the pleasure of knowing each other. I’d leave the food, and focus on you: tell me more about SadSoul, and let me tell you about me.

    Tell me more about you. What I know so far is that you’re very finely built so a few cheese pizzas are in order, you get aeons in comfy old jeans with a pony tail, and your need some turquoise clothing to top up your wardrobe that’s become quite bare. I know a few other things, some very sad things, but I’m going to focus on the good things. I know that you are kind and caring. You are proof there are beautiful people in the world. You’re strong. You’re intelligent and you research things so you can understand and share your knowledge. Hmmm. Lucky me to be able to find a study place with understanding and thoughtfulness in you. 

    I want to know so much more! If only the world were smaller, we could pick a place, get fish and chips and take them there, and have a picnic getting to know each other. PS you can have all the fish 😂

    “I’m scared…”- I am scared too. I don’t know of anyone who is not scared. Do you know of any person, anywhere, who is not scared?

    I don’t really know anyone anymore. This made me think though. My very best, dominating and controlling friend, well she was just as scared as I was of being alone and unloved. Her demands were really just her way of reaffirming her value. Mostly her motivation was not mean but unfortunately how she demanded from me to affirm herself was selfish and sometimes mean. I went on a google mission after reading your things above. Almost all of it was us. 

     

     

    THANK YOU beautiful Anita and I’m apologising for running away before I could handle so much kindness. Even now I’m starting to cry. I’m so very touched. Need cheesy pizza and mulled wine and fire and your company to help enjoy them all.

    #433632
    SadSoul
    Participant

    There are so many typos in that, I am sorry. Ask if you can’t work it out.

    #433655
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    My very best, dominating and controlling friend, well she was just as scared as I was of being alone and unloved… how she demanded from me to affirm herself was selfish and sometimes mean“- a real friend does not demand; a real friend allows a friend the time and freedom to think, to feel, to choose.

    No one has ever wanted to be my friend in such a simple uncomplicated way“- I do.

    “I want to know so much more! If only the world were smaller… Need cheesy pizza and mulled wine and fire and your company to help enjoy them all.”– cheese pizza and mulled wine and fire with SadSoul sounds heavenly. If you can, and you would like to, you can submit a post with an email, one that’s safe for you to submit in a public forum (an email created for this purpose perhaps), and I will send an email to the address you provide. This way we can communicate privately. (As I shared before, I am technically/ computer-wise challenged, or disabled, so I don’t know how to do what I am suggesting). You also have the option to ask the website owner (CONTACT under HOME at the top of the page) to delete a particular post in your thread or the whole thread.

    Thank you for calling me beautiful, and kind and caring. I am smiling right now, taking in these words, letting them in.

    anita

    #433690
    SadSoul
    Participant

    Do you have Facebook?

    #433697
    anita
    Participant

    No, SadSoul, no Facebook.

    #433724
    SadSoul
    Participant

    Hmm. It has a good messenger system if you feel like getting technical and signing up for it. It’s easier to use than emails too. If you feel like becoming a tech guru I can help with it. (hahaha lolll loll, nah I can help)

    – a real friend does not demand; a real friend allows a friend the time and freedom to think, to feel, to choose.

    This is so powerful and so true. It will slowly weave its way into my mind. Hopefully!

    No one has ever wanted to be my friend in such a simple uncomplicated way“- I do.

    Ditto.

    Thank you for your kind and wise words over the weekend, while I fell in a heap of misery, simply because I did something normal and everyday for most but that caused me to feel so lacking in value. I usually juggle my aloneness with much less despair.

    I made a happy mental note that you are a coffee drinker. When we suss out this challenging how shall we contact each other for a less public get to know you, I shall brew us a pot, and you can provide the creamer!

    #433726
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    Hmm. It has a good messenger system“- I was signed up for it (done for me) 12 years ago, and right away, a cousin from another country reached out to me. I figured: what’s the point of crossing a couple of oceans so to hide away from certain people,  only to be found out in an instant (via Facebook), so I deactivated it.

    Thank you for your kind and wise words over the weekend“- you are welcome, this is what friends are for.

    I shall brew us a pot, and you can provide the creamer!“- thank you, but what kind of creamer will you provide: cow milk-based or plant-based? Almond milk creamer, oat milk creamer, coconut milk creamer, or soy milk creamer? A sugar free creamer? A low-calorie creamer? And what flavor: French vanilla, hazelnut.. caramel.. ? And what manufacturer: Intenational Delight, Coffee-Mate, Nestle, Chobani, Almond Breeze, Starbucks, Dunkin.. another? (I thought it was hilarious in a previous post that you looked up “creamer”, lol!)

    anita

    #433792
    SadSoul
    Participant

    😂 I think I might just bring the milk, then we don’t have to decide between a hundred options. It’s cows’ milk full cream because soy milk tastes gross 🤢

    I just ate far too many of those packets of noodles that come with flavour sachets and you only have to cook for two minutes. Oh the msg. Oh how I hope I don’t get a migraine from it! I love them but I are way too much and I feel a bit woeful now. Sharing is caring 😂

    How’s your week going?

    #433813
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    My week is going fine, looking forward to mowing this afternoon! Well, cow’s milk, full cream will be fine and dandy. i know the noodles packets you are talking about! No migraine I hope..?

    anita

    #433825
    SadSoul
    Participant

    Dear Anita!

    Would you be able to mow my grass too? I didn’t get to it last week. I prioritised and watched Netflix.

    No migraine! Best start away from the delicious noodles for a while. I think I’ve only bought them once in my life before this. The progeny used to beg for them and couldn’t understand how very bad they are for you. As soon as they were in charge of their own grocery bills they bought truck loads of them 😂

    I have no steam in my engine at this moment in time. I’m trying very hard to achieve but the go-go mobile has stopped. A total waste of a day. I wish guilt and shame didn’t overtake me. Thank you, mother dearest, for instilling this in me even though you don’t live up to your standards. Thank you, ex partner, for carrying on with your judgement thinking I should do more, when you didn’t live up to your standards you placed on me either.

    But in all honesty, how does a person escape these feelings? I know it is okay to relax, I know this in my head, but my heart and stomach can’t get with the picture.

    How did your mowing go? Did you have creamer in your morning? How are you feeling?

    #433826
    SadSoul
    Participant

    PS I’m still feeling guilty I didn’t now last week. The only solution to the guilt is to mow. Except I’m so tired. So instead I’m trying to distract myself with easier tasks and the internet. Such value, such unmowed grass… 😂

    #433827
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    How did your mowing go? Did you have creamer in your morning? How are you feeling?“- I am glad you asked: (1) mowing was fun but felt more dangerous an adventure than last time (ups and downs, sharp angles, holes in the grounds, etc.) AND as a result of mowing for THREE hours, my shoulders and arms are hurting big time. (2) I had plenty of creamer, I have a big sweet tooth, but the creamer was too sweet (oat-based, by the way), and (3) I have to relax my shoulders/ upper back instead of contracting these muscles.. shhh, muscles.. relax.

    I wish guilt and shame didn’t overtake me. Thank you, mother dearest, for instilling this in me… Thank you, ex partner, for carrying on with your judgement thinking… But in all honesty, how does a person escape these feelings?“- don’t try to escape shame and guilt, instead, find/ connect to your good, caring intents and motivations. You are a good person, believe it, think kindly of yourself.

    anita

     

    #433829
    SadSoul
    Participant

    Oooh! We’re awake at the same time! That’s pretty cool.

    Hot baths are good for sore shoulders. Sore anything really. Then an anti inflammatory of some kind and a good sleep. I often have much soreness from my sporting adventures. If only my muscles would catch up with the idea that I’d you use them lots they don’t hurt so much 😂

    I have a chai latte, the unhealthy sweet sachet kind, and am doing the nothing again. I never used to have a sweet tooth but since I entered the dark years I’ve developed one.

    My stove top is clean after many months of not being. I vaguely remember you undertook this task a while back. It’s highly overrated 😂

    #433830
    anita
    Participant

    Dear SadSoul:

    Your stove top is clean! I keep the stove top dark (no light), so, it doesn’t appear dirty. My shoulder, right side, is tense right now. Sore. I did take a hot bath, need another, too tired of taking another. are you still awake? What .. continent do you reside in (Australia?)

    anita

    #433831
    SadSoul
    Participant

    😂 You are good at guessing

    I’m still awake. I’m spooking around, frustrated with myself because I’m tired and don’t want to move, so instead I’m up and down doing little things.

    Are you still awake?

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