A friend who had cancer a few years ago (I didn’t know them then yet) uses this as an excuse to tear people down. If they’re in an argument and do not have a proper or valid comeback, they throws this. They revels in the fact that no one their age (20s), at least no one around us, has experienced this and therefore, they can always shut the other person by being like: “I’ve had cancer. I win every argument.” (this is paraphrased). All I do is make sure that they are always comfortable and I try not to upset them and they takes advantage of that. I feel like I can never feel bad about anything because they’ve had it worse having to go through chemo. In genereal, I feel like they just wait for me to say something they can disagree with. They just always have the need to contradict me in some way and it stresses me out as I have to spend a lot of time with them(right now there is no avoiding this as I see them every day). Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this internally? They are pretty ready to get very defensive whenever someone criticizes them. Thank you in advance for your responses. Have a lovely day. 🙂
“Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with his internally?”-
– no, I don’t see anyway to deal with a relationship distress internally, as in within you and without communicating effectively with your friend.
As long as you are in a relationship with this person, especially living with the person, you have to come to an understanding and a better way to interact and get along, and such an understanding has to come by through communicating with the person, you talk, they listen, they talk, you listen, and so forth.