“You change for two reasons: Either you learn enough that you want to, or you’ve been hurt enough that you have to.” ~Unknown I learned about boundary work when I was teaching in the NYC jails with male prisoners. After driving onto a maximum security island of electric, clanging gates, I encountered metal detectors, hallways filled with yelling, chaotic inmates, and tension and anxiety in the air that was almost tangible. I started my workday tensed up and ended it drained, exhausted, and overwhelmed. In other areas of my life, the same thing was happening. In my personal relationships, I … Continue reading How to Set Healthy Boundaries: 3 Crucial First Steps