Anita,

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response.

Your thought process is exactly right. There is not one perfect person, but there are those who are “Imperfectly Perfect” but those people only show on your radar when you are truly open to accepting them, but mainly yourself, as a wholly, lovable person.

This man, this ex of mine, is insecure and does not know himself. As I told him, the “something” missing is something within himself…not the relationship…not with me. And until he is able to find what makes him who he is and what makes him happy, then he can never be in a truly happy and healthy relationship, with me or anyone else.

In addition, perhaps you are right about the other piece…I could not imagine being with someone who isn’t whole, or healed as you mentioned. I would be incredibly unhappy and that coupled with my own OCD would be a terrible combination.

I can only hope that he works on himself (he said that he will and plans on it) to become whole because he does not want to live his life the way he is.

I won’t give up on love…or myself. Things happen the way they are supposed to, as they are supposed to, when they are supposed to. And just like everything else in life, if things are meant to be then they will…I have faith that is the case <3