I am thinking a lot of it comes down to bullying that occured from the age of 11 to 17. I was in fear. And I would suppressed this fear with risky behaviour. Then drugs. Now in my adult life it is a pattern of not trusting or feeling close to anyone. Thinking relationships are instant. And turning to sex or other highs just to feel some comfort. After that going back to if I change everything people will like me and want me I need to be someone different because I cannot connect and trust people