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  • #84066
    jheel
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    Yes Inky, you are totally right, person cannot be modern and still follow 100% tradition even if it means disrespecting other person’s feelings.
    It’s as if following traditions justifies hurting another person.

    And yes, I remained friends with him,, thinking tthis will soften the blow of the break up. But it did much worse now that I need to see him everyday with another person.

    #83993
    jheel
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    Yes, the horoscope thing is really strange, I was even wondering if that was the real reason of the break up. But anyways, what’s the use of doing all this thinking when the guy himself doesn’t want you.. the real pain now is to see him and his new love everyday at work.

    #69268
    jheel
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    Hi!
    keep strong; ull definitely feel better as days go by. my story is somewhat similar to yours. our breakup happened two weeks ago. and like you, i met him at work, starting liking each other, he proposed, i accepted and we embarked on a beautiful relationship. i felt as if we were meant to be, that he was the one. i dreamt of our future together. everything was good until the day he told his parents about us.

    his parents wanted to have our horoscope checked, and to my greatest disbelief, our horoscope did not match. without seeing me nor knowing me, his parents insisted that he should leave me. and that’s what he did. he told me he was not going against his parents and that we should quit then itself. i was shattered. i could not believe that a good relationship, where we both understood, trusted and loved each other, would just dissolve because of his parents and the stars.

    well, i did some thinking during those two weeks and i realised, is it really worth to be with a guy who believes in the stars to make a relationship work. personally, i am not against horoscope matching, are relationships built upon the stars only or do they require work from both parties?

    he was willing to let go of a good relationship where the stars didnt match, but maybe one day, he wont let go of an unhappy and unhealthy relationship where the stars do match.

    i never asked him to go against his parents, but he could atleast try to convince them and try to reason with them. but this is not what he did. instead he agreed to leave me and accepted to go for an arranged marriage.

    and what about the roles of the parents? indeed they are here for guidance and support, but imposing their wants and likes upon their children, is this right? definitely i would not want to be the daughter in law in such a house, where i have to suppress my own wishes and live according to the parents’ in law wishes.

    i am still healing from this break up..but maybe in the long run, ill be happy about his decision.

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