Hi,

I need to get this out! I was brought up in a home where my mum was unhappy with my dad for years and she always says she should have ended it sooner. I have a lovely husband and children but every time my husband does something human (ie we have a row and say things we don’t really mean in anger etc) I always ponder after whether we should really be together, whether I should leave now rather than later etc. I love him and our life together but these doubts are always there. I can’t tell whether it’s because of my upbringing or genuinely because maybe we don’t make each other as happy as we ought to anymore.
He was my first real boyfriend so I don’t have much to compare it to! Along with this I used to worry so little and now I am anxious all the time and don’t feel like myself. I am constantly comparing myself to others and trying to be like others in order to feel better about myself. For the last few years (after my first born) I have been trying to create some sort of identity rather than simply feeling good being me in my life I practice yoga and this helps I just wonder if maybe my doubts about my relationship are coming from a dislike of myself and that therapy could help. Your thoughts would be most appreciated!