Hello All,

The big question I have is “how can I to keep a positive attitude but not come across as being indifferent to the struggle of others.”

I am currently in a long distant relationship. My boyfriend’s job has become extremely demanding, and it has made him resentful, emotionally distant, and bitter. We rarely see each other and I know that is just fuel for the fire. I am quite positive and hope in any situation (I was not always like that – it took a lot a work and personal growth!). When I attempt to talk to him every response I get is dramatic and churlish – he NEVER has anything positive to say. I try to talk to him about his feelings and be hopeful for him, but he is not receptive and will not talk to about anything he is feeling or thinking. He refuses to make time to see me because he says he is “too busy with work.” He will not even talk to me over the phone! All he does is text message. For a 31 year old man he is quit the child and and a master of passive aggressiveness. All I hear from him is “work is horrible… my poor life… you don’t understand… you don’t care… I don’t think this relationship is working…” Like I said, I try to be positive and help, but I think he takes my positive perspective as I indifference and lack of empathy which is far from the truth! He is pushing me away whether he means to or not. He was not always like this, but if he keeps this up, I will have to walk away. What can I do to make him see I care or does this seem like a lost cause? I do not know what more I can do.