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March 24, 2017 at 5:54 am #141451SameerParticipant
Hello Peaceful Souls,
Professional life is stuck at age of 30. Its not moving ahead, though I have everything in my professional as well as personal life. I don’t find peace at work. I feel jealous, ego, anger, arrogance. This is affecting my health. I am away from my family from last 10 months, hopefully to bring them back by next month.
How to control negative emotions? Why so many negative emotions in me?
March 24, 2017 at 7:38 am #141473AnonymousGuestDear Sameer:
To attempt answering your question: “Why so many negative emotions in me?”- got to give specifics of those emotions. Would you like to specify them? Also, have some of these negative emotions independent of your professional life, existing from before it?
anita
March 24, 2017 at 7:46 am #141477SameerParticipantYes, anger is from my birth, ego started in my teenage. Arrogance and jealousy started few months back when more people added in my team. I am not boasting myself, but I have very good knowledge than them in the field I am working, they may be having extra qualities of politics, management, but I am down to earth guy when it comes to my work. I do my work with full of honesty.
I know where people going wrong in the project, I guide them and they don’t listen may be because of my tone, then they ignore and they follow the same thing which I suggested. This pisses me off. I am on the verge of promotion, but due to my this behaviour I am not getting one. I tried controlling these emotions by listening meditational music, doing yoga, reading good books, these all will help for 1 or 2 weeks again when I see same people around me I start all my negative emotions.
March 24, 2017 at 7:59 am #141479AnonymousGuestDear Sameer:
Regarding anger, impatience, behavior in the workplace: as you already observed, things are not like they should be. Inefficiency, dishonesty/ politics, personal issues, all these make for very frustrating dynamics for a person who expects things to work like they should: efficiently, honestly, fairly.
First adjustment: stop expecting things to be like-they-should. The world would be a much better place, by far, if things happened like they should, in governments, businesses, in the streets, and inside homes. But this is not the world we live in.
Second adjustment: be authentic to yourself and at the same time you make first adjustment. So you don’t compromise what you value and, at the same time, you don’t get distressed when others don’t act according to what you value.
Third adjustment: you behave in the most effective ways for you, being authentic to yourself and choosing your behaviors with others considering who they (individually) are, what motivates a particular person. Not so to dishonestly manipulate that person, but so to be effective with that person, while, always, remaining authentic.
Your thoughts? Also, about your anger, “from birth”- more details?
anita
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