Some would think I have the perfect life, I’m a young mom living with my boyfriend and 1 year old daughter. Upstairs lives my mom and 3 younger sisters. The house is actually my boyfriends, and my family was homeless so they moved in with us. Everything is great, except for our relationship. He thinks it’s great, but it’s not for me. He is emotionally and romantically absent. It is so hard for the two of us to enjoy our time spent together if it’s not sex. He wants to play video games, and I want to actually do something. He won’t make the effort, it is like he’d just prefer to not be with me. He spends almost all day with his friends, more time spent with them then me and our daughter. He doesn’t try to surprise me, doesn’t buy me gifts, doesn’t ever tell me what I mean to him. When I’m upset, he’s not there. It feels like everyday he just finds a way to bring me down. Not to mention, he is ridiculously irresponsible which makes me feel like I have to be his mother every day. I have talked about this with him a million times and no explanations just doesn’t see why he should change a single thing. I know this isn’t what I want, he is bringing me down into his black hole. All I want to do is feel alive and live and explore, be happy. But leaving him, almost seems like it’s not an option. I would destroy my family’s home, forcing them to relocate to a homeless shelter, and I’d lose everyday with my daughter. It’s like I have to sacrifice myself for the greater good and I just honestly don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong here. Any advice is appreciated.

• This topic was modified 8 years, 8 months ago by Elisha.
• This topic was modified 8 years, 8 months ago by Elisha.